Relationships 10 years +

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Just wondering how many Aspies (with NT or other aspies) have been in long term relationships for more than 10 years and are still happy or find it difficult!

If too young for poll, still be good to hear your comments...

"together" for 12 years, our 11th wedding anniversary will be in April.

Sorry, longest relationship was just over 3 years.

My longest relationship was 1.5 years.

My longest was about 2 hours.

6 years was my longest. It was tough.
I am in my second longest..it should outlast my longest...I hope....

I woud love to be in a relationship for 10 ad more.

we're going into our 15th year together, married this year for 12. it has definately NOT been easy...sometimes it's easy, sometimes not. sometimes i don't know why i even bother trying...but hey, it's better than being alone...lol.

27+ years and still happy.

I couldn't even imagine a relationship lasting more than a year. Thats just crazy.

We're both on the spectrum. Almost 30 years, now. I've known her, though, since we were little kids. So I can't remember not being friends, to be honest. She's my best friend and we are doing very well.

Jon

Awww... Isn't that sweet

10 years together and the key is that she has the patience of an angel and we are best friends. I love her so much because of how incredible she is and that just helps to keep our love strong and growing.

Awwww.......

I wish I had the patience of an angel.....
At least my relationship has room for improvement....

Longest I had was 2 1/2 years.. and that wasn't easy, nor pleasant, albeit dramatic and passionate. That was with an NT.

This is my second longest.. which is 11 months. He is autistic too. I don't like to think we will be together for 10 years or more, because I'm a believer of just letting things run their course. I also believe that you can spend your life with someone without a second thought, but if you're asked beforehand if you could spend that time with them, it could make you scared and not do it.. if that makes sense.

It's a long relationship with all the trials, pain, and joy that often goes along with something that has tested you and exposed your weaknesses and yet also helped you find your strengths, too. The result evolves into something deep, meaningful, and valuable. One thing I realized and embraced, is what it means to be a best friend, first, and lover, second. No lines in the sand. Just friends, forever. And to understand that she owes me nothing and that each day she decides to stay with me is a gift. Like holding an open hand and hoping the bird will land and sit there for a moment, and that those moments are given to you only so long as you keep your hand open and never try to close it. She owes me nothing and gives me something wonderful each day I get to be nearby. She is free to make her own choices and I know that I will work to help her, no matter if that carries personal pain or not. I will listen and advise her as a best friend would, not as a lover might, setting aside my wants and sincerely helping her find what is better for her. To be someone she can talk freely to about anything, without judgment, without selfish attempts to control her for my own sake.

It wasn't easy to learn.

Jon