AndersTheAspie wrote:
Chimchar wrote:
Oh, Wow. Now I feel bad.
Oh, I am not sure why you would feel that way... but it wasn't my intention to make you feel bad, merely to help you.
I'm trying on the bit empathy I have... well, half-joking.
Lots of people, especially in teenager years, want to make a acquaintances, but they do call the people friends. Many NTs have lots of acquaintances (which they call friends), but they only like a few and only talk to a few regularly. Also, getting to know new people is always exciting and for many NTs it's just 'making new friends'.
That the people seem to come and go instead of establishing a long-term friendship doesn't mean you're boring, annoying that they don't like you. You must be somewhat interesting, do something other think is cool or just very interesting in order to make all these people want to get to know you. You seem to appear interesting to people. That's a good start I think.
Finding friends is not easy for anyone. At least, finding this kind of true, long-term and likeable friend, a
real friend and not just an acquaintance is not easy for anyone. Just because people say, 'oh, I've been friend with 30+ people and I know some since kindergarten' doesn't mean that out of these 30+ people one of them is a real friend. They may just be people whom one talks to sometimes. Social necessaries.
So, saying you
may read to much into getting to know new people isn't anything negative about yourself, but just means that most of those that you meet aren't very interested in making
any friends, just getting to know lots of (and maybe good?) acquaintances. And a good share of NTs really need that, they don't just do it for the fun.
Just don't feel bad about yourself.