38 Years anniversary

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I have been married 38 years. That seems like a long time. It seems, looking back, it has been the hardest thing I have done in my life. I cried a lot. If I had not gone on anti-depressants and If he had not stopped drinking 22 years ago then we would have divorced.

It is not the grand, soulmate, lovey relationship. I think we are more just comfortable and trusting of one another. Like he does not demand I slow down and I do not demand he speeds up.

Maybe I settled for someone who was not my greatest love or had potential to 'be' someone and a greatprovider. Then again maybe I just chose someone I knew accepted my odd speech, odd ideas, my depressions, and my ever famous screwing up all the time. If I married the man society would tell me to marry, then we probably would end up hating each other. (of course the fantasy is still, I could have married someone more sucessful. - a girls gotta dream)

As an aspie I guess I just wanted to say it is possible to have long lasting relationships. - and maybe they won't be the 'normal' or imagined relationship -- they can be different or odd and still work on some level. I know in 15 years he will still be there to hold my hand when we walk.

Happy Anniversary for you!


Wish you for the best to come

i think that its pretty common for people to have an image of a "grand, soulmate, lovey relationship"

and maybe they will see what they experience in their relationship is not that

but any good relationship is going to involve a lot of learning. before the learning can occur, theres going to be revelation on what needs to be learned - thats going to be something thats hard and so we learn why its hard and how to work around it

as long as both people are learning, the relationship is developing

by that formula difficulty and growth are directly proportional

other relationships are hard for other reasons - abuse, repression..

these are the truly hard relationships in which the only thing that grows is frustration.

Happy Anniversary!

Happy years of having a companion

Merle

That's wonderful. Happy Anniversary!

Wonderful ! !! !!

The Missus and I are coming up on 18 years, and I think that's remarkable.
I pretty much share your feelings. I Love Me Missus, but when we got hitched we were just heads over heels. Years went by until we understood one another. I Love her because she's stood by me while I was un-employed and searching for a job. To this day she jokes about whether AS exists or not (! !??) But she loves me, and that's all that counts. Every morning she wakes me up when she leaves for work at 5 AM, and tells me she loves me. I'm not the easiest bloke to live with. ya know ....

Congradulations

A belated happy anniversary!

Happy belated anniversary from me, too!

My husband, and I just celebrated ours Friday. A whole 10 years now.