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22 Aug 2011, 1:03 pm

I generally have a five-point checklist before I lend money to people:
1. Can I afford to lend the money to other people? (If I am in debt, I usually wont help others)
2. Who am I lending it to? Can I trust them. (A close family member would be different than a fair weather friend)
3. What will they be spending the money on? (Is it going to be spent on booze or gambling?)
4. Is there some mechanism in place so I can ensure my money is returned? (Collateral or ink and paper. So they can't just run off)
5. Do they have a reasonable plan to get out of debt. (They need to make a commitment to cut expenditures until their debt is paid.)

What are your thoughts on lending money to other people?



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22 Aug 2011, 1:15 pm

People generally won't pay you back unless they're a close family member or your best friend.



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22 Aug 2011, 3:10 pm

Venger wrote:
People generally won't pay you back unless they're a close family member or your best friend.


I tend to believe this, too, which is why I lend very rarely. of course I have a 'justifiable' excuse now. I'm poor and broke most of the time. I have 20 bucks or less to last me until like the 6th or 8th of next month.



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23 Aug 2011, 3:40 am

a wise man named ben franklin said "neither a borrower nor a lender be."



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23 Aug 2011, 3:46 am

I never lend money. I just don't think it's a good idea because it changes the relationship forever. If someone I truly care about needs money, and I have it to give I will give them what they need.



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23 Aug 2011, 5:23 am

auntblabby wrote:
a wise man named ben franklin said "neither a borrower nor a lender be."


He's on the hundred dollar bill though. lol



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23 Aug 2011, 5:47 am

Venger wrote:
auntblabby wrote:
a wise man named ben franklin said "neither a borrower nor a lender be."


He's on the hundred dollar bill though. lol


i wonder what he'd have thought of that?



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27 Aug 2011, 7:02 am

if i want to see the money again i don't lend it. five bucks to a mate, no problems because i don't care if he pays me back. sometimes they do pay you back and its a bonus. lending money to people who can't pay their bills? that's what bankruptcy is for, and financial counseling services which i would tell them to do. and then the person on the phone can tell them to stop being a twat and to live within their means. that way they don't hate ME for telling the truth.


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31 Aug 2011, 2:37 am

auntblabby wrote:
a wise man named ben franklin said "neither a borrower nor a lender be."


very smart quote.



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31 Aug 2011, 8:00 am

I would just give them money to help and not expect to be paid back. That is if I could afford to.



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31 Aug 2011, 12:50 pm

VIDEODROME wrote:
I would just give them money to help and not expect to be paid back. That is if I could afford to.


I've did that before with two different people I met on PSN. I gave one $50 and the other $20. They're still on my friend list too.



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31 Aug 2011, 1:49 pm

you have to think of it as a gift.



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31 Aug 2011, 4:24 pm

psych wrote:
you have to think of it as a gift.


I don't do well with this line of thinking. I think it is my money, so if I lend it to you, you should give it back. I lent 50 dollars to this woman in august or september of last year. she comes up with excuse after excuse as to why she doesn't have it for me to get back. I could really use that damn 50, too.