How many of you live on your own?

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I have lived on my own and with other people over the last 11 years. I moved out of home when I was 20 and started out living with a couple of people for just over 3 years. I then moved into my own flat and lived alone for 5 years from 2005 - 2010. Since 2010 lived on and off currently living on my own with my cat Jaz.

I am totally independent and am going to be flatting soon in a new flat with my brother. Moving out of my current flat in a couple of weeks. We get on fine as I don't particularly like living with other people. I am suited to living alone and even though it is better financially to live with other people as you can split costs I have managed my finances e.g bills and paying the rent on time and looked after the flats that I have lived in. Also the social side of living with other people you have to put up with all the issues that people have and most people like to have other people over so that did my head in. I'm sure my bro and me will get on

Im 50 and still live with my mother. I hate it. I have a crippling fear of the world. I want a job badly but fear that as well because Ive been bullied at every job Ive ever had. For the last 6 months Ive been training myself for office work (a cubicle would be right up my alley) and Ive been visiting sites like WrongPlanet to try to toughen myself up a little and get some confidence on the go. My mother has always told me that Im crazy and flawed and blah blah blah so you can imagine how finding out I am an Aspie was such a revelation to me. Aspergers is not a problem, the world is. The world is the problem. Im okay. Anyone here never find the courage to leave the nest??

Apart from a few months when i rented a room out to a friend, Ive lived on my own now since 1979

Before I was married I lived alone for quite some time. It was the worst.

ive lived on my own most of my life,, better then the hell my mom made for me,, but now i have my son here who is also midly autistic,, but he has his live, i have mine and i have my cave(room) I can escape to if his tv gets to loud for me,, it works

i live with my parents and i am still in college at age 22. I hope however to live on my own next year when i graduate college =D

I got a windfall of money in my 20's and bought some land. Later I built a small no plumbing house.

My youngest is a normal person, does not share DNA with me, she has friends and goes to college. She also sees to it that I have water and fuel oil.
I grow flowers and get visited almost daily, but go to bed and get up without anyone here.

Not to be morbid, but this is where I plan to stay when too old to live anymore.

Moved out of my parents place when I went to university then spent about a decade house sharing with a person I knew at uni and some other people. Lived with different friend for the past couple of years. Would ideally like to live on my own but have never been in a good enough financial situation to make it a good idea.

I've been living alone for the last 7 years and wouldn't have it any other way! I keep odd hours ie go to bed very early and get up very early which I know most people find odd. Plus I like things my way, to be able to leave my unit and know that things will be the same when I return. Throughout my late 20's and 30's I tried housesharing but it was alway frought with tension and often ended badly. I'm not very sociable so feeling forced to interact was awkward. I just didn't feel I could be myself and do what I wanted very often.

The only downside is that it's cheaper to share and sometimes I wish I could afford to live somewhere a bit nicer but it's worth it for my privacy and sanity. I spend a lot of time at home so it's vital I feel comfortable here.

I would live with a partner but they'd have to understand my need for space and ideally not do much to annoy me.lol I've made the fatal flaw of moving in with partners and having the relationship disintegrate because I couldn't cope with them being around too much/me being unable to change my habits.

ive lived alone my whole adult life, 17 years, i find the thought of someone else in my space terrifying! my flat is my sanctuary from the world where i feel safe and everything is just as i want it. oh and i love getting up on the weekends and sitting around in my underpants untill lunch time

I've lived on my own out in the forest for about 16 years.
My nearest neighbour is 2 KM away, which is about right.
I have relationship with a wonderful women who lives in town. Shes a unit manager Psych Nurse. We see each other 1 night a week and go on Holidays together.
This works well for me. I think She would like more but there are issues other than aspergers.
I'm 57 and life is good in my own little world.

Thank-you for keeping this discussion thread going!

The key example of the Autism Spectrum is that dichotomy between strengths (strong abilities to handle technical tasks), and weakness in (sometimes daunting) face-to-face experiences with neurotypical people (NTs).

For example, Asperger adults can boost their advantage (and independence) in the NT world by enlisting advisors/advocates to be present during the process of negotiating, and purchasing "big-ticket" items such as automobiles, and even assistance in handling property transactions.

The key question here is: How, and where can such trustworthy people be found in one's own community? Any model programs recommending people (on a volunteer basis) to assist as advocates/advisors? Are many services affordable to most Asperger adults? Are such advocates/advisors becoming increasingly active on......WrongPlanet.net?