"Neurotypical" premiere on US TV
Paula, I saw it as both.
I have been married for a very long time and had some huge ups and downs within my marriage.
The way you perceived the money issue was how I see things, you thought very rationally about them, but you're husband was kind of like "no big deal'
It's like that in my marriage about a lot of issues. I am very rational and I get anxious and he is "oh it's no big deal". I think it shows the differences in our worlds. Autistic thinking vs NT thinking.
I related to you.
Also the way he squished you? My husband does that for me too.
When they first showed you with your son (I think it was outside somewhere) and you were rocking on your feet while standing. I do that. I move like that. I enjoyed seeing you very much
Thank you for doing this. I know the way it was presented in the film made you uncomfortable and I am so sorry you felt that way.
I saw your section as addressing both. What I took from the parts about your marriage is that sometimes NT partners inappropriatly blame stuff on autism that is just normal stuff. So in addition to living your life you have the additional hassle of arguing with them to take what you say seriously and not blame all dissagreements on autism. I don't know if it says anything about autism itself, but I think it does say something about how interactions with others can be affected by their perception of our difference. I don't know if I'm writing that very clearly, but that was my take.
I want to second the love of seeing how you respond to the water. It reminded me of walking by the river with my birth Mom. We both love the water.
To put the idea of financial stress being more difficult for Autistics into perspective, the total additional amount is well over $200,000 (including interest, which theoretically could be paid early IF I had any additional money to do that, which I don't). It will take 21 additional years of paying the "mortgage," of which 13 are left. I am the only one paying on the mortgage currently. I will bet that non-autistic people would be, um, a little stressed about this too. It is an untenable situation. I am finding the comments here very interesting. Oh yes, please don't send me financial advice! I have been looking at what to do since 2006, and unless someone just sends me cold hard cash, there is not much else to be done than what I have already done.
Well, I don't know about autistics in general, but I have experienced something similar and it is plain to me that my autism played a role. I think I would have been able to say "no" if I had different neurology and I am sure I would have been able to work directly with the lending institutions when, as it is, I was often unable to communicate effectively. Perhaps I saw similarities in the story that they showed on POV that were not really there. As it is, I am trying to find ways to extend my working life beyond the usual retirement age so that I can continue to pay off debt that I would never have, had I made all the decisions.
I am sure there are some autistics who are financial geniuses and who find navigating this kind of thing effortless. Sadly, I am not one of them.
I mostly have wanted to distance myself from the film. But recently, I found that PBS had created a whole page of "did you know?..." statistics about autism. 13 points, most of which were negative, including that "we are twice as likely to die." I asked them to remove it; they did not (so far). I think it should not be included on a site that is supposed to be about positive (mostly) images of autism). So, finally, I wrote a blog entry about it. I am hoping to go back to ignoring the film after this.
http://paulacdurbinwestbyautisticblog.b ... ics_3.html
There are a lot of cool superpowers that come with autism. Like multiple lives (that's why we like video games so much. we can relate to getting more than one life).
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I just saw it, I think it was great! (I haven't read the thread, just didn't want to make a new one on the same topic.) It's streaming until April 16th at PBS
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