Something I've noticed about ableists myself, is that they think the only way to have a good quality of life is to be like everyone else, to be "normal". But who are they to decide what the quality of life really is? Especially given the fact that they've only lived one kind of quality of life for their whole lives, and for that reason alone, they can't possibly have an unbiased viewpoint. Nobody really can.
With me, I know my life isn't perfect, nobody's life is, but I'm happy with what I have because I know it could be a million times worse. And to have someone else tell me that I'm not living to their expectations is just insulting to me, and I always retort with "well, considering you're judging my life and comparing it to yours, you're not living up to my expectations either, so get over it".
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