Do you think u'll end up a 40 y.o. virgin?

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I am a girl, but I'm attracted to other females. I have very severe social anxiety & am afraid to talk to people, let alone anything else, so I highly doubt I'll be meeting anyone & I may very well end up a 40 year old virgin because of that.

Beeing a virgin when you're a homosexual really isn't that uncommon. You're still young, and there are a lot of people in the same situation as you. The black metal icon Gaahl (one of Norway's most famous homosexuals) had his first boyfriend in his mid thirties.

Appearance is easily enhanced. You just have to take what you think are your best features and emphasize them. Looks are not as set in stone as people think.

You'd be amazed at how good some guys can look with a simple haircut, a sharp color coordinate suit, and a smile.

Spazzergasm,

You have kind of a gothy/suicidegirls.com thing going either on purpose or accidentally but it works really well for you. You might want to play it up more to draw guy attention. People tend to categorize by stereotypes so you want to go for one that has sex appeal to attract guys attention.

It was accidental. I'm glad you like it. I go to a missionary school right now. I think when I'm off to college, it will be easier to try some more interesting styles.

I hope you're right about the looks thing. I hate admitting it, but I wear braces right now. I'm hoping I'll look better when they're off.

Okay, this is borderline inappropriate, but I googled suicide girls out of curiosity, and the fight club shots are SO cool.

I lost my virginity when I was 20 but I think I will have a 50/50 chance that I will get my first relationship before 40.

No; sooner or later I'm not going to be able to wait anymore. Over the past few months my want for "that activity" is surging through the roof. When there is a will, there's a way. Plus I'm actually pretty good looking according to people. I don't want to sound like I'm full of myself.

I heard of a woman who was a virgin and had never had a relationship in her early fourties. By the age of 45, she was married and even had a newborn child.

It's better than being a straight guy who's a virgin because people assume your homosexual because of it; well some assume I am anyways. I sometimes suspect it mite be easier to find someone if I was gay because gay guys come on to me but women only like me when they think I'm gay. I'm never more than a friend to women

It seems to be very uncommon to me. It seems like I'm the only one. Even online, I think I'm the only gay virgin I've ever met. It makes me feel even more on the outside of things & like I'll never fit in with anyone.

Are you sure Gaahl wasn't in relationships with females before he had his boyfriend-- like Elton John or something, who dated women until he came out as gay?

He said so in an interview right after it was publicly known that he was gay. He was never really in the closet, though. All his friends and aquaintances had known for years. In a different interview, he also stated that he knew he was a homosexual already in his childhood, and that he was never interested in women.

20% of all homosexuals die as virgins; homosexuals aren't as promiscuous and sex crazed as some people think they are. Many are in fact very shy. I don't lesbian women mind if you are a virgin, at least not the ones who prefer the active role in the relationship.

I understand that it's hard to find a significant other when you're not heterosexual, but I wish you the best of luck.

What is a virgin exactly? I mean, I am not sure if I can say that I lost it or that still am.

Spaz I want to thank you for the nice laughing fit I just had. I know you didn't mean it. But I've been very stressed and on the edge of a meltdown today and when I read the line you wrote above I started howling. (If you don't get it, hint: play on words off of "missionary" and "more intersting styles".)

I hope I'm still not a virgin at 40. The thought makes me think I'd rather be dead than bear another ten years being sexually frustrated.

Did you ever engage in coitus?