Reasons why I never will have a boyfriend.What do you think?

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Really, that's the deal-breaker? Not "everyone hates me"?

OK, 10 cats is a lot, but if they stay outside that's a different story. And hey, some guys like cats, too.

But if everyone (or nearly everyone) hates you and you have a difficult personality and are not willing to change - now those are real problems. Not necessarily deal-breakers, though - I never cease to be amazed at the kind of women some men put up with.

1-4 and 14: You're only 18. You probably have another 70 years left of your life--and it's too early to insist that you'll remain single for the rest of your life.

5: A lot of men like animals.

6: Girls like nightclubs and partying more than boys do, so this is generally not a problem.

7: Everyone does.

8 and 10: A lot of guys like nerds.

11: Most 18 year olds today can't cook anything, so there's no need to worry about that. I wasn't a good chef at the age of 18, but I'm quite good at making healthy dinners today.

12-13: People with Asperger's syndrome are usually both clumsy (92% have problems with handwriting) and leave a mess, but there are several women (they're a couple of years older than you, though) on this board who are married.

15. Check out dating sites or open online communities instead. Only Americans get laid regularly by using Craig's List.

you live in montenegro, most people are too lazy to hate you and most guys are too lazy to be dominating in the bedroom...or so the jokes go

you are exaggerating but it's because you don't know what's around the corner..at the moment, your life seems like a major drama, and it probably is. So concentrate on doing other things and just be grateful if you accidentally end up with a boyfriend in a process

you mentioned that this is restricted to school, don't worry, kids at school are quick to judge and hate easily, it won't last.


that's not a bad trait to have, you can also use the word complex, and I think most people are more or less complex.


there a group for this? count me in.


I have one, and it's just luck I met him


ok that is a lot, but I might live with it.
though there is a lot of dog people in the world too, this might be one of those things that put off some.


me neither, think of how much better this world woud be if everyone stopped thinking "nightclubs is the place to hook up"
So many lonely guys sitting at home in front of their computer is thinking this, go make one happy


same here, and I'm a guy, so no worries.


GIRL GAMER...... sorry, just had to throw that out there


this is an aspie trait, I have the same thing, perhaps find someone who shares interests?
Although, another aspie trait is the tendency for truthfully saying when they are bored.
this might be one of the two issues that might have an impact, but hardly a big one.


again, don't be too hard on yourself.


I suspect most teenagers can't, it's something to do with the modern lifestyle and easy access to simple cook food n such.


in japanese anime that is a cuteness trait.


awesome someone I can relate with.


I got mine when around... well, I think I'm almost getting around to it, probably.... maybe?
and I'm just 26, my point is, life experience is accumulated, and at age 18 I also had close to 0% of it.
and there's much that many never experience, so you could say even my grandfather is not even close to 50%


something akin to bdsm? I'm sure there are someone for that, else there wouldn't be so much porn of it.



all in all, those aren't reasons to dislike you, and there are boys out there who either don't mind or actually like these traits, and most of them probably don't go to nightclubs, dont go to nightclubs.

Cue 75% of WP rapidly calculating the cost of a flight to Podgorica.

Eh, a lot of those applied to me and I still have never had a girlfriend. Still, you're female so you might actually get dates. Whether that'll actually lead to a compatible relationship, I don't know. I wonder whether on this topic it is an advantage or disadvantage to be a a more traditional society.

I cant speak for everyone else, but here's what I'd be thinking if I were considering dating you (based on whats written here)-

The real problems I would have with a partner would be if they weren't mature enough to handle things such as one of my best friends being female, or the fact that I really appreciate time by myself, or that its not reasonable for us to start throwing around the "i love yous" from day 1. Self centred things like that, which don't really show any specific want to accommodate a partner, rather an attempt to twist them into what you want, are what send me running. Also unhappy, resentful people. Relationships are about sharing happiness, not having it sucked out of you. None of what you mention though is actually discouraging, and some of them are actually rather attractive features to have (I love cats, cats love me).

Overall, this guy reckons however unlikely it is you end up in a relationship (lets be real, it'll probably happen at some point), if you do end up in one its much more likely to be happy and successful than what the vast, vast majority of people get into. And at least, practically drama free (and you don't want drama). The person you do end up with will probably be remarkably unsuperficial, and thats the kind of person you want, right?

Lmao, I thought the exact same thing.

hahaha you made me laugh

From that brief description, you sound pretty great, really... except the ten cats part. I personally couldn't have a single animal strolling around... too much work, and they spread filth.

I'm sure everybody doesn't hate you. You probably just have bad self-esteem... it tends to come along with depression. And it's a good thing not to party. I personally have never been to a party in my whole life, and hope I never will have to, for whatever reason it could be. My ideal girlfriend would feel the same about partying... that it's meaningless, worthless and is very, very risky, if you pass out from too much alcohol. You're not missing anything by not going to such places.

Don't you maybe have any proper friends on the Internet, at least...? Maybe you should broaden your horizons. Montenegro doesn't have a very large population. You should consider what your main interests are, and maybe join some forum which best matches those... and maybe friendship later on can lead to a proper relationship.

And nerdiness... my girl would *have* to be nerdy for us to be compatible. It's really too bad that they seem rather rare. :/

Here's your problem, you have no confidence in yourself. It shows off to other people you may be interested based upon your looks but ask yourself this: If you were a dude, would you want to date yourself? You need to have a mentality that you are awesome and any dude who thinks different is missing out on a great girl. Show more confidence and that will help you tremendously.

I don't agree that you will never, ever have a boyfriend.

You deserve to experience romance just like anyone else.

It may take time and building up self-esteem, but you can have a relationship if you want it and if it's the right time.

I thought just the same at your age.

I had brief flings throughout my early twenties, but have managed a serious relationship now at twenty six.
I would have managed one earlier had I had the chance. Circumstances and health didn't allow for it.

Don't despair. Give yourself time. Enjoy the freedom of being single, whilst planning for the changes needed so you can form romantic attachments in the future.
Don't give up on yourself.

Heh, sounds like I was born 20 years too early. Back in the day, there were few nerds of any type, and no male nerd was actively searching for a female nerd.

i dont think any of these reasons are why you havent had a bf. men are shallow and will overlook almost anything for an attractive women (most will). so the question may be, how do i make myself more attractive to the men i am interested in?

Twenty (err, eighteen)? Sheesh you have a ways to go before you get jaded.

You exaggerate.



Me too. But at least it's character and it doesn't mean that people will hate you.



NT's barely know how to form relationships. Look at how many Facebook friends people have, and they think those are "meaningful" relationships. It takes time, effort and a bit of luck.



Can be overrated if you're happy with yourself. Do you need friends, or do you think you want friends because it's a NT thing?



NOT a deal breaker. Do they all have names, or are they also strays? I went through a cat phase (still have a couple) and get invites to the Humane Societies "Fur Ball" all the time (plus their Directors love me because of donations)



Good. There's still hope. Why anyone would want to go to an overcrowded, overpriced, loud location like a nightclub?



Good.



Aren't we all? Discussions of which is the best Dr. Who to favorite episode of The Guild, eh?



If they haven't walked away, so?



Tonights dinner was Ramen and Bourbon Chicken (from the frozen food section of Wal-Mart). I have a credit card when I need to impress.



On Friday I went snowboarding and fell off the chair lift 10/13 times getting off. This wasn't my first year and today I fell 0. We have our moments.



Thats why I live alone - and have multiple bedrooms to avoid that issue. You simply need a bigger house.



You're alive, you have life experiences. Join the Army if you REALLY want some life experiences.



Move to the US, particularly San Francisco and you'll fit right in.



Plenty of time, it's not a race.

Cats are pretty clean as animals go. Humans are far worse.