Cool song about getting friendzoned

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Glad we're in agreement as androbot01 seems to want to give mixed messengers the benefit of the doubt.

But in some cases women do this not to be manipulative, but because directness isn't their style and they seek to avoid the wrath of a guy who cannot handle rejection. Either way, disengagement is the best option.

That's why I posed it as a question rather than an accusation. Read my post more carefully before you react to it: you seem to have missed the phrase about not wanting it to be a knee-jerk reaction. Instead, you made a knee-jerk reaction of your own.

Not wanting a romantic or sexual relationship with a person who is attracted to you does not make you a "biotch." Even giving mixed messages is not grounds for calling someone a "biotch." Mixed messages may be in the mind of the person reading the messages rather than in the person supposedly giving them. As I said before: sometimes a woman can't even toss her hair back out of her face without some men thinking she's intentionally flirting with them. Some men seem to think that any woman who would smile at them and speak to them in a polite and friendly tone of voice would want to jump into bed with them. Some women--myself included--are such complete failures at reading body language and making all those non-verbal social cues and communications that we wouldn't know a flirt from a threat. Deliberate mixed messages, such as flaking out when you said you'd hang with someone but then pretend that something significant came up when you really just didn't want to be with them because you were only pretending to like them--that is rude. But you can't always assume that's what happened if you thought a woman was non-verbally signalling you that she likes you, but then said "no thanks" when you asked her out.

But my intended point was: Name-calling is simply detrimental to having a rational discussion about the topic at hand. I don't think you'd react favorably if I called frustrated men who get turned down when they ask a woman out "wankers."