Obsessed With Finding Someone?

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Yes to all of the above.

It's strnage but when I come accross someone I find that I think I will be compatible with, it turns out that they haven't been active for a couple of years and there is no way to contact them.

I sometimes do random Google quotes for certain things, like things I would say or something to find a girl, and everytime I come accross someone, no matter what page, it was last updated a few years ago. Why am I always too late for things? Not just that, but other things, should've happened sooner.

Not all the time I am obsessed with finding someone... Sure I can feel alone but it doesn't mean that finding that one person is going to make it all better.
At the end of the day... I know that it's not healthy to bring myself into a state about something that is only short term by continually thinking this way.

That fits me exactly. I can't introduce myself to a girl for the life of me just because of the fear of rejection. I feel mortified by the idea. It also kills me when my friends on Facebook get into relationships or get engaged and I remain single.

Are you lonely?
Nope.

Do you constantly think about being with someone?
Only if she puts out.

Do you sometimes go out of your way to find people like you?
Only friends who share my interests.

Do you think, that when you find someone you fancy, or if they are similar to you, you automatically think that they cold be the one?
There is no such thing as "true love". Only lust and need.

You can't help but wonder, do you stand a chance with them?
There is no such thing as "true love". Only lust and need.

You really want to talk to and get to know someone, that has a lot in common with you or captures your interests, but you're insecure and afraid of being hurt/rejected?
Sex is the only reason to bother and that can be readily procured.

Does it bother you when you see someone of your interest with a boy/girlfriend?
No, since I've banged hotter than a lot of girls I see around me.

Other than Andrew Dice Clay here ^ I follow the party line with the majority of posts. I've also been going on that sage advice of 'stop looking and love will find you' long enough to see it for the crock it is. For the single and inexperienced, I sort of envy you - at least all you have to do is wonder, while I bear the unseen scars of having had my eyes opened just enough, to have that dream periodically placed in front of me only to have it yanked away again

Are you lonely?
Most of the time. Whenever I'm feeling down or see a constant reminder.

Do you constantly think about being with someone?
Not all the time, but when I am not doing a hobby or something that interests me I think about having a girl in my life.

Do you sometimes go out of your way to find people like you?
No. I'm deep inside my shell and I have to wait for someone to crack it because I don't have the strength to do it.

Do you think, that when you find someone you fancy, or if they are similar to you, you automatically think that they cold be the one?
Probably, even though it will most likely lead to a lot of hurt...whenever this will occur tho idk, it might be years from now.

You can't help but wonder, do you stand a chance with them?
Yeah. I'm not the best looking guy so most of the girls I am interested is just a dream for me.

You really want to talk to and get to know someone, that has a lot in common with you or captures your interests, but you're insecure and afraid of being hurt/rejected?
Yep. I know that not trying gives you a 0% shot but when you have all of these confidence/self-esteem issues stemming from others (i.e. high school), you feel like avoiding more chances to be hurt and when you don't have the skills because you never attempted, it makes it a very difficult barrier to overcome.

Does it bother you when you see someone of your interest with a boy/girlfriend?
I'm not gonna lie, I get really frustrated when I see the guy that the girl is with, especially if I feel he is one of those "jerk, a-hole" types. I also feel a little jealous when my friends are currently in a relationship and I see pics or anything like that. Honestly any public affection with people my age can upset me...that's why I hate going to certain things at campus, fairs/carnivals, etc...

yes, and unfortuneately it's much worse for a guy to be like this than it is for a girl

i never understood, why is desperation so unattractive? is it still that bad even if a person is only desperate for the right one? as in, not desperate as in settling, but desperate for the actual right one?

I would yes to most of those too. But it shouldn't be as bad for those of you still under 25. Try looking for a woman over 40 that fits what you want (and is single and willing to date). Most aren't. And when your worried about getting too old to enjoy anything before you find anyone.