Last time I alowed myself to fall for the IMAGE someone created about himself, and it was adorable ( the whole visual identity of his FB profile, his choice of photos, music videos, movies he suggested to be watched, collected poems, stories, his thaughts on various subjects and finally, his looks) was ten years ago to only find out the guy was a narcissistic stalker who was studying my profile and things I like, so he intentionally presented him as my perfect soulmate. He has tried to get me in sub-domino bdsm world and mind games I am really not into. Once he realized the time he wasted to hook me on was wasted he started with imense bulling that I went completely off of FB and his radars, to finally get rid of him, I even went for half a year for emotional support for bullied women.
Eversince that I am much more precautious and don't really look for love online.
I totally agree you have to date someone in person, in real life, and spend a lot of time together to be able to see who do you really have in front of you and decide wheather to open up and give love a chance.
I hate being infatuated, for me it's kind of special sort of madness that makes me completely clumsy and stupid. Now I would rather first be friend with someone before I decide to go for something deeper.
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Someone wrote in their signature English is not their first language. Same here.