scared to have sex?

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I'm not afraid of it, but it has to be for the right reasons. I could never see having a one-night stand. The mere thought of it makes me feel dirty. In a close relationship however, where I genuinely love the other person and want to make them happy, I enjoy myself. I don't have regrets.

I guess you could say it's not so much fear of the act itself, as much as a desire for it to be with the right person.

I used to be scared of it. I first had sex when I was 19, mostly because my boyfriend really wanted to. I know if I'd said I wasn't ready he'd have probably accepted it, but he wanted it and I couldn't think of a good reason why I didn't. I didn't have a reason, I just had a gut feeling against it. We broke up shortly after that, probably partly because of that tbh (my brain went a bit mental) and I didn't even go near having another boyfriend until last year (by which time I did feel a lot happier with the whole idea of sex and all that), and a few months later started having sex with him and I really like it now. I guess personally I reckon you've got to wait until you feel ready for it. Ignore anyone who tries to make you go further than you're happy with because I really did regret it.

When I had sex we were both vergians and had no idea what we were doing. That relationship has ended a long time ago and sence than I have made out with a few girls at difrent parties that I have been to but I have not had so much as a cup of coffie with a girl. Because my only sexual experances was with a girl who was as inexperanced as my self I fell that I don't realy know what I'm doing and will be disapointing to whichever girl I have sex with next.