Online dating sucks, or is it just me?

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I met one of my closest friends on a dating site. I care for her very much, and she and I enjoy spending time together. Unfortunately, I'm head-over-heels in love with her, while she only likes me as a good friend. I'm hoping that someday she feels the same way about me. While this scenario is unlikely, it's not impossible. I know of several people who started as friends and later developed successful romantic relationships. Hopefully she and I can do the same. I feel more strongly about her than I ever have about any other girl in my life.

I've tried a few different ones and can't complain about the results. You have to write a profile that catches her interest. Most of the men on dating sites are only into beer and sports and not very intellectual. I found that my Aspieness makes me stick out from the herd of beer swilling, NASCAR douche bags. The freebie sites are the worst so I don't use those. Believe it or not Yahoo personals have proven the best for me.

I'd have to say I've wasted too much of my time on it (free dating sites, mind you):

• Tons of single mothers
• Some are even pregnant!
• High-school drop-outs
• Lots of trolls, fakes, and spambots
• Many women have a serious mental illness

Women are always swamped with messages on online dating sites, and men often don't get replies.

It really sucks for guys, but its the same on all of them :/

You're not kidding - I have no idea why any guy would even bother, I'm certainly not going to waste anymore time on them...

What the heck is going on with WP members this week? It must be some kind of planetary alignment thingy cause people to go all nutty with each other. If I had first come to WP during the past few days, I wouldn't have come back. Between the real personal attacks and the whinging about perceived attacks, it's getting really tiresome.

I didn't even read this whole post. Skimming through was enough to let me know that it was way too much personal information and I don't wanna know.

Whatever is in the air lately, I hope it ends soon.

Grisha, don't worry. You'll find someone. Just don't become one of those people who writes a zillion posts snivelling about not having a girlfriend, but being unwilling to do anything about it, and sooner or later, the right one will come along.

Indeed.

Its a full moon. Everyone goes nuts at the full moon.

Oh, you're right!

Coincidence? I think not!

Thanks for the encouragement!

I know I'll figure something out eventually, I recently divorced and I'm just trying to re-learn how to go about it.

Regarding the post in question, I'm still sort of baffled by the whole thing, the moon explanation is as good as any...

EDIT

I cross-posted this from another thread because it explains things better that I ever could - Thanks Janissy!!

Grisha, I know enough about the situation to know that you're acting really immature, and if you continue to act this way in future relationships, it will doom you.

This thread has degenerated to taking things to a personal level; thread locked.


M.