Finding Others Attractive

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I've seem to come to the observation that my view of anyone I deem "attractive" is merely their clothing or hair.

How common is this, deeming looks on what they are wearing? I love colors. If someone is outlandishly dressed I can't stop staring at them (unless they're dressing as a clown, or something). Same thing with hair. Not necessarily outlandish, just... I don't know. All I know is if someone is dressed in clothes or has hair I think are good... for whatever reason... I can't stop looking at them.

This seems so fake to me, judging appearance on such things.

What do you guys think? Any comment appreciated.

Yeh, I relate to that.

I think their hair/clothes says something about them & is something that can articulate their sense of style, so it's not necessarily shallow. Your comments come across to me as though you probably know that they can be a complete Dorkbrain even if their hair or clothes are awesome (even though they usually aren't).

Visual components in things can be important to us & maybe that's just what you like. It's OK to like that.

I look at hair and clothing first when I become attracted to someone. But I have had experience where the good dresser that takes care of their hair can also be a jerk, so I want to find more out about a person. But I'm a sucker for a guy that cares about fashion. *cough* Davey Havok *cough*

Attractiveness is a subjective thing. Meaning, one way isn't better than another (or more real for that matter).

I'm the same way. I'm really attracted to women who wear certain outfits and have certain hair styles. I can also find certain faces to be attractive. And personality traits. But mostly hair style and fashion is what I'm really attracted to.

I agree that how people dress/have their hair does show something about them.

I barely register hairstyle or clothes. But I do love intelligent eyes. Mind you, if they smell, it puts me right off, and the fact that they smell is normally indicative of a whole lot of things wrong.

I tend to look through the clothes (as it were; I don't have X-ray vision... yet) I like a nice body shape and pretty face. And eyes, yeah. Most people seem to dress really stupidly these days. The fashions of the day are awfully off putting to me.

Ever since I was very young, I've always found hairstyles to be attractive. If I find something unique about a hairstyle, it has at times made me start to develop an interest in the person just because of that. Sometimes it was a hairstyle I didn't even like lol. But a lot of the people that I'm attracted to are very "normal" looking, so having a unique look isn't a pre-requisite. I'm much more attracted to personalities than looks. At times, a person I initially find unattractive will become attractive to me after I get to know them as a person.

I am very much like that. I love tight clothes and long "emo" like hair especially. If I see someone with nice hair and clothes, I fit my ideal personallity into them, even though I know they could be knobs.

I'm not sure why someones clothes or lipstick should be any more of a shallow comparison than someones ears or nose.

To be atractive to me someone has to be more than just pretty, for example if they are wearing a well made formal suit (female) with a bit of flare and are well groomed in a tasteful way, it's reasonably safe to assume they are relatively intelegent and interesting (they likely work in an office or have a reasonable job, probably earn decent money and so naturally have reasonable exposure to the world and would need a reasonable level of intelegence to hold that position). I have no idea if i'm physically attracted to what it looks like or what it represents.

Do i think over the top make up and a short skirt looks bad becuase it makes the person look cheap, or do i not like them becuase they are often worn by people who are cheap?

Physical attraction is visual at the end of the day and grooming and dress is part of that.

I am attracted to a woman based primarily on her personality and demenor and the extent to which I am able to have a conversation with her.

I have always had a MAJOR thing for guys with long dark hair and facial hair.

About a year ago, hubby and I saw an ad for a movie that featured some actor whoe appearance I normally feel neutral about (Tom Cruise, maybe?). His character had long dark hair and facial hair, and I commented, "Wow, he looks really good like that!" Hubby laughed and replied, "Honey, you'd think Barney Fife was hot if he had hair like that!" I thought that was hilarious.

And yes, in case you are wondering, hubby has dark hair and a gorgeous mustache and goatee, although his hair has to be shorter these days because of his job.

I've always found other humans as ugly. The human form is repulsive and digusting to me.

Lol...if I find someone too flamboyant in their dress, I actually avoid them, but that's just because I'm paranoid about people with histrionic personality disorder.

i totally ignore the clothing [as much as my imagination will remove the clothing from the picture], and concentrate on form and movement. if the person is kind and funny, that adds to the attractiveness.

I'm kind of the opposite. I can't feel attraction before getting to know a person's personality.