Aspie Affection
I do believe that as many, if not more, female aspies have difficultiy meeting and sharing long term relationships. Almost all of my NT female friends seek that sort of meaningful realationship too. I think the challenge is greater for girls because we are often taken advantage of right from the get go, when we are very young and still very uninformed. As each negative experience takes us down a knotch and we turn further inward it becomes more and more challenging to find or except the right guy. Online dating can be quite intimidating for woman, esp if one realises how many sociopathic NTs or otherwise (such as in Lonermutant's case) are there on the self serving prowl for the convience of internet 'shopping' as it is.
Why don't more Aspie guys attend Meetups? There are always a larger percentage of girls who do. I think any girl is more likely to be open to meeting a guy on a Meetup than an internet dating site, at least it shows initiative.
They don't attend them because they only want simple, no-strings-attached sex with a woman. They know that most of the Aspie women they would meet at these meetups are either in a relationship with a nt man or they are totally asexual.
I do believe that as many, if not more, female aspies have difficultiy meeting and sharing long term relationships. Almost all of my NT female friends seek that sort of meaningful realationship too. I think the challenge is greater for girls because we are often taken advantage of right from the get go, when we are very young and still very uninformed. As each negative experience takes us down a knotch and we turn further inward it becomes more and more challenging to find or except the right guy. Online dating can be quite intimidating for woman, esp if one realises how many sociopathic NTs or otherwise (such as in Lonermutant's case) are there on the self serving prowl for the convience of internet 'shopping' as it is.
Why don't more Aspie guys attend Meetups? There are always a larger percentage of girls who do. I think any girl is more likely to be open to meeting a guy on a Meetup than an internet dating site, at least it shows initiative.
They don't attend them because they only want simple, no-strings-attached sex with a woman. They know that most of the Aspie women they would meet at these meetups are either in a relationship with a nt man or they are totally asexual.
You best be trollin!
Or just speak for yourself!
Also most of the time it isn't 'asexual' but just a very low libido.
Edit:Just read something.If you are only interested in casual sex could it be you have an obsession for sex?
I do believe that as many, if not more, female aspies have difficultiy meeting and sharing long term relationships. Almost all of my NT female friends seek that sort of meaningful realationship too. I think the challenge is greater for girls because we are often taken advantage of right from the get go, when we are very young and still very uninformed. As each negative experience takes us down a knotch and we turn further inward it becomes more and more challenging to find or except the right guy. Online dating can be quite intimidating for woman, esp if one realises how many sociopathic NTs or otherwise (such as in Lonermutant's case) are there on the self serving prowl for the convience of internet 'shopping' as it is.
Why don't more Aspie guys attend Meetups? There are always a larger percentage of girls who do. I think any girl is more likely to be open to meeting a guy on a Meetup than an internet dating site, at least it shows initiative.
They don't attend them because they only want simple, no-strings-attached sex with a woman. They know that most of the Aspie women they would meet at these meetups are either in a relationship with a nt man or they are totally asexual.
You best be trollin!
Or just speak for yourself!
Also most of the time it isn't 'asexual' but just a very low libido.
Edit:Just read something.If you are only interested in casual sex could it be you have an obsession for sex?
Bullseye, I want a sex slave, not a girlfriend. Simple as that. Don't tell me that most of men with AS actually want a long-time relationship, family and all that crap. I have no need for friends or a girlfriend, I just want a sex slave, a free prostitute I can do whatever I please with.
Laws are here to protect ourselves but in the secret of their heart, how many agree with Lonermutant?
Not only aspies or whatever but A LOT of people, all kinds of people.
Or else, there wouldn't be no porn at all, would it?
I don't at all, and there have been plenty of males who have disagreed with Lonermutant's trolly comments all over the forum.
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Only just noticed this thread. Here's my perspective on dating. Might help some of you, and deal with some pre-conceptions.
I'm female and I have a son who's been diagnosed with Aspergers recently. Dating since my divorce has been... difficult. (That pic by the way is me.) I'm quite social but my gosh it's difficult for me to get interested. You've got to have a brain and lots of people don't. (I suspect I have some Aspie traits too...)
To the guys around here - you have a huge advantage - your brain. Do something with that. I've been reading through this thread and mostly I'm seeing a defeatist attitude. Self-pity is about the least attractive thing in a man. I might be uncharacteristically resourceful (that's just been recognised by my son's dad, finally) but mostly I've grown to be resourceful because if I don't take care of things, nobody else will.
You also need to work on being the person that's worth loving. That means physical fitness, hygiene. Expose yourself to situations in which there's a chance of things happening. Get your mind in shape so that when you do meet a lovely person you're relaxed, and ready to step up and simply ask her a question.
All these things are just off the top of my head. Social pressures make it almost impossible to work these things out - just forget about them. Forget about asking people out, just make friends who can get to know you as you are, be unconventional, be yourself, be authentic, be someone I'd want to love.
I don't know. Is any of this making sense to anyone?
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I'm female and I have a son who's been diagnosed with Aspergers recently. Dating since my divorce has been... difficult. (That pic by the way is me.) I'm quite social but my gosh it's difficult for me to get interested. You've got to have a brain and lots of people don't. (I suspect I have some Aspie traits too...)
To the guys around here - you have a huge advantage - your brain. Do something with that. I've been reading through this thread and mostly I'm seeing a defeatist attitude. Self-pity is about the least attractive thing in a man. I might be uncharacteristically resourceful (that's just been recognised by my son's dad, finally) but mostly I've grown to be resourceful because if I don't take care of things, nobody else will.
You also need to work on being the person that's worth loving. That means physical fitness, hygiene. Expose yourself to situations in which there's a chance of things happening. Get your mind in shape so that when you do meet a lovely person you're relaxed, and ready to step up and simply ask her a question.
All these things are just off the top of my head. Social pressures make it almost impossible to work these things out - just forget about them. Forget about asking people out, just make friends who can get to know you as you are, be unconventional, be yourself, be authentic, be someone I'd want to love.
I don't know. Is any of this making sense to anyone?
It does make sense, thanks for posting
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not nescessarily. the ratio of female to male aspies has had many different results. i've heard 1/4 before, 1/5 and 1/10 here.
also, the stats might be a little off but last time i checked on this site the percentage of AS males was something like 40% whilst AS females was something like 30% whilst the rest were undiagnosed, self diagnosed and other kinds of autism and such.
perhapes it could just mean that the AS women as a percentage voted more than AS men (although there are less of them so even if more of them as a percentage of all of them voted then it is still likely they would be outnumbered.)
nonetheless, perhapes that stats vary when you look at the amount of aspies online. and even if there are a lot more men, its still worth a try i suppose...
...just means there's a bigger selection for all you ladies out there
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I do believe that as many, if not more, female aspies have difficultiy meeting and sharing long term relationships. Almost all of my NT female friends seek that sort of meaningful realationship too. I think the challenge is greater for girls because we are often taken advantage of right from the get go, when we are very young and still very uninformed. As each negative experience takes us down a knotch and we turn further inward it becomes more and more challenging to find or except the right guy. Online dating can be quite intimidating for woman, esp if one realises how many sociopathic NTs or otherwise (such as in Lonermutant's case) are there on the self serving prowl for the convience of internet 'shopping' as it is.
Why don't more Aspie guys attend Meetups? There are always a larger percentage of girls who do. I think any girl is more likely to be open to meeting a guy on a Meetup than an internet dating site, at least it shows initiative.
They don't attend them because they only want simple, no-strings-attached sex with a woman. They know that most of the Aspie women they would meet at these meetups are either in a relationship with a nt man or they are totally asexual.
You best be trollin!
Or just speak for yourself!
Also most of the time it isn't 'asexual' but just a very low libido.
Edit:Just read something.If you are only interested in casual sex could it be you have an obsession for sex?
Bullseye, I want a sex slave, not a girlfriend. Simple as that. Don't tell me that most of men with AS actually want a long-time relationship, family and all that crap. I have no need for friends or a girlfriend, I just want a sex slave, a free prostitute I can do whatever I please with.
Could you also be an aromantic?
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