scubasteve wrote:
lotusblossum you've pretty much debunked every possible theory of what makes someone attractive as a partner. Makes me wonder if such a question can even be answered, or if the real answer is just a little more Freudian than we'd like to believe.
And Bugzee, I'm sure you know there are genetic factors in weight. Exercise helps though and is an admirable step. I know this is a ridiculously long thread but you might try reading the original post fully (or at all.)
when I was younger and had friends I was 'asked out' more than they were, even ones stuningly pretty and thin. My bf of the time an NT, said that it was because most women have 'superior' expressions on their faces and went in groups where as I hung out alone and looked aproachable, he said aproachable meant I was looking round interested and smiling (not snobby), he said the thing which stops men aproaching most is fearof rejection and that I looked like I would not be rejecting, he said I looked like I would not be mean (and I suspect I look like I would 'put out').
I have learned over the years to not look round in a friendly way and smile at men as I dont like being approached lol.
but the lesson to learn from this is that AS people should work on makeing direct eye contact and smiling if they want to 'pull'! !