Why do guys hate fat chicks?

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Would you date someone fatter than you?
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29 Jul 2013, 5:08 pm

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Most of this thread was before my time here and I'm not about to go read it all now, but I'm pretty sure most guys don't hate fat chicks, as such (at least not for being fat), they just aren't attracted to them. There are some exceptions, though, myself included.

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Guys complain about pretty skinny girls cheating on them but ignore the nice girls that would treat them better just because we don't meet their standards.


Is there really a correlation between how nice a girl is and how fat she is? I'd be surprised, but if anyone has any data, I'm all ears... err, eyes.

I can pitch in my personal experience, which doesn't count for much...

I've dated heavier girls than I was. One in particular I wish I'd tried to hang on to because she didn't have the kind of hangups I've since encountered with heavier girls.

I've noticed with a few heavy girls I've been close to that they tend to gravitate towards LTRs more easily than skinny girls. I think it's an insecurity issue, which (no offense meant to anyone) I suspect of the OP. [NOTE: I'm admitting I COULD be wrong here] The LTR I was in for some 6 years was with a girl who was only active when she absolutely HAD to be, didn't display all that much personal initiative or drive, complained when she didn't get her way, and blamed all the ills of the world on me. Yet as much crap as she dished on me, she wasn't ever all that interested in breaking up. Threatened a few times, yes, but it was more like using breaking up as ammo--more a threat than anything serious. We'd developed too much of a co-dependent relationship for us to really be able to function apart from each other. We made it from Jr. High all the way to a couple of years in college when I decided I'd had enough and accelerated that crazy train right off a burning bridge...even laughed as I watched it go up in flames when it hit the bottom. Then she went all crazy on me.

Fat girls/skinny girls...it's 6 of one and half a dozen of another, IMO. On the one hand, you have psychotic, insecure, co-dependent types who'll drain the life out of you if you hang around too long. On the other hand, you have skinny girls who have all sorts of options and are all too aware of those options. I've dated skinny and pretty girls, and the ones who broke up with me first or cheated were, invariably, the pretty ones.

I'm married to a BEAUTIFUL skinny woman. Since we first got together, there were times we were separated and we both know what we did in the absence of the other. Pretty, skinny chicks drive their guys bonkers because of a Catch-22: In order to keep them from straying, you have to isolate them from other guys; except you can't do that because that's considered abusive. Getting the "right one," whether she's plump, sweet, loving, and even-tempered or she's so skinny you can see what she's thinking, and beautiful, and smart, and true, is only something you can accomplish if you really go out on a number of limbs and play a wide dating field.

Incidentally, I've not slept with another woman since I got engaged to my wife, and she's not been with anyone else since then, either. That doesn't mean she's been "safe" from men trying, but I seem to have found my ideal.

From my experience dating both larger girls and skinnier girls, I'd say if I had to do it all again, the skinnier girls are the safer bet. They might cheat and/or leave. Fine. At least you know where you stand. I'd rather deal with that and say good riddance than have a ball and chain from the get-go. Once you get with crazy, she's hard to get rid of.



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29 Jul 2013, 5:17 pm

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Really? So fat doesn't signal 'unhealthy' to you??


If fat signalled unhealthy, I'd be dead.

I'm 153kg and 6'2".

I like chubby girls in general, but I'm not exclusively attracted to them.

(Obviously I don't like my women to be grotesquely huge, but there's a fairly wide range in what I do like.)


Yeah, I am nearly back to the weight I was before anti-depressants but I still like fat girls. I don't know why.

I prefer women on the high end of normal BMI (say 23ish, so not fat at all, just not stick thin) to basically obese (but not usually morbidly obese). Anything below about a BMI of 23 and they get less and less attractive as they lose weight. When they're at the borderline of underweight (which is strangely considered attractive in the media) then they have completely of lost it for me in terms of physical attraction and it becomes all about personality then.

Like my friend who I have fancied for 11 years - she used to be around 21 in terms of BMI and even back then I still would've been more physically attracted if she gained a bit of weight. Now she is underweight (around 17 BMI) so any attraction I have now is all to do with who she is as a person.


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29 Jul 2013, 6:38 pm

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The OP got 3-4 boyfriends (and maybe more) ever since, hence proving this thread is false: not all guys hate fat girls.

And she's probably now more sexually experienced than 90% of fit guys here.


Lol, maaaybeeee. :lol: :wink:

I'm surprised this was revived. This was my first topic I posted I think...but yeah, I've lost around 87 pounds since this thread was made, found love, lost it and found it again and now it's going really good for me. We're talking rings and babies and the whole works. He met me halfway through my weightloss sooo yeah I was proven wrong in that guys don't hate fat chicks. I discovered that some take advantage of those with really low self-esteem and then ditch em when they're done. So once I started gaining confidence with the weight loss and graduating college, I met my current bf and I couldn't be happier. You may continue to debate it if you'd like but know that I no longer need guidence on the topic. Huzzah! :)



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29 Jul 2013, 6:56 pm

Why guys hate fat chicks: For the same reason anyone hates fat people. Cause they are jealous that they got more food. Food = Love That's why!



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29 Jul 2013, 7:13 pm

5'4 250 is more than just a fat chick no offense. most fat chicks also have an entitlement complex..they want the best looking tallest strongest funniest guys like all girls do. they dont realize that they are not as desired. I'm 6'2 205-210 and work out alot and have a good body. i'd date someone who was fatter than me..maybe 5'3 140 or 5'6 170..but nothing extremely fat. I wouldnt date a girl over 5'9 and at 5'9 she cant be over 190...or too fat.

if you really workout as hard as you fo maybe your thyroid is f****d.


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29 Jul 2013, 7:17 pm

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Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


This is one area where women are a lot dumber than men. They generally go for someone who's large and beefy, often not realizing that most beefy guys are beefy because they're fat, not because they're muscular. Next time you see a really hot girl walking with a gigantic hulk, take a look at his arms. It's all fat.
maybe you should lift weights before commenting stupid things. a fat guy with a lot of muscle is way more muscular than a skinny ripped wimp. a lot of guys purposely consume loads of calories and gain soem fat in order to have that linebacker build. there are fat guys with no msucle and fat guys with a lot of muscle.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnv5IePfxpk


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04 Aug 2013, 5:33 pm

I don't hate fat people. Fat people can actually be attractive in some way.



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04 Aug 2013, 6:06 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
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Erisad wrote:
Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


This is one area where women are a lot dumber than men. They generally go for someone who's large and beefy, often not realizing that most beefy guys are beefy because they're fat, not because they're muscular. Next time you see a really hot girl walking with a gigantic hulk, take a look at his arms. It's all fat.
maybe you should lift weights before commenting stupid things. a fat guy with a lot of muscle is way more muscular than a skinny ripped wimp. a lot of guys purposely consume loads of calories and gain soem fat in order to have that linebacker build. there are fat guys with no msucle and fat guys with a lot of muscle.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnv5IePfxpk


Yes, but most girls are more attracted to toned but fairly thin. Especially the refined girls near cities. Take a look at Matt Bomer.

Too big is a turnoff, and from an evolutionary perspective, it makes sense. Strong fat guys or even steroid hulks are too slow and unfit to make good hunters or warriors.

The best Cro Magnons could run, swim, and shoot all day - through swamps and mountains- without breaking down. Today's steroid buffs likely couldn't.

The natural standard of beauty for men and women are not really different at all: strong and built but fit. Religion/patriarchy/civilization simply tried to change the standard to place women in a more subservient position. The extreme of this is anorexic women and male steroid junkies - neither of which favor survival at all!



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05 Aug 2013, 6:58 am

Tyri0n wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
LordoftheMonkeys wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Fat guys can still be popular though. I know lots of fat men who are players. A fat chick is avoided like the plague. D:


This is one area where women are a lot dumber than men. They generally go for someone who's large and beefy, often not realizing that most beefy guys are beefy because they're fat, not because they're muscular. Next time you see a really hot girl walking with a gigantic hulk, take a look at his arms. It's all fat.
maybe you should lift weights before commenting stupid things. a fat guy with a lot of muscle is way more muscular than a skinny ripped wimp. a lot of guys purposely consume loads of calories and gain soem fat in order to have that linebacker build. there are fat guys with no msucle and fat guys with a lot of muscle.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnv5IePfxpk


Yes, but most girls are more attracted to toned but fairly thin. Especially the refined girls near cities. Take a look at Matt Bomer.

Too big is a turnoff, and from an evolutionary perspective, it makes sense. Strong fat guys or even steroid hulks are too slow and unfit to make good hunters or warriors.

The best Cro Magnons could run, swim, and shoot all day - through swamps and mountains- without breaking down. Today's steroid buffs likely couldn't.

The natural standard of beauty for men and women are not really different at all: strong and built but fit. Religion/patriarchy/civilization simply tried to change the standard to place women in a more subservient position. The extreme of this is anorexic women and male steroid junkies - neither of which favor survival at all!


there is nothing strong and built about big boobs. a round ass, wide hips and a narrow waist, which are considered attractive



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05 Aug 2013, 8:10 am

Speaking of the beauty standards of our remote ancestors

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With the Venus of Willendorf, again we see how mere survival is a part of their culture. It is commonly thought that these statues represent fertility, or the ideal woman that would be able to reproduce.



In some countries today, such as some South Pacific island nations, fat chicks are much preferred over thin. If you're a fat woman in need of love, then go to Tonga or Samoa. You will probably end up being married to a big, strong, good-looking rugby player.



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05 Aug 2013, 8:13 am

ArrantPariah wrote:
Speaking of the beauty standards of our remote ancestors

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With the Venus of Willendorf, again we see how mere survival is a part of their culture. It is commonly thought that these statues represent fertility, or the ideal woman that would be able to reproduce.



In some countries today, such as some South Pacific island nations, fat chicks are much preferred over thin. If you're a fat woman in need of love, then go to Tonga or Samoa. You will probably end up being married to a big, strong, good-looking rugby player.


Jep, especially if you're pale skinned :)



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05 Aug 2013, 9:40 am

Cafeaulait wrote:
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If you're a fat woman in need of love, then go to Tonga or Samoa. You will probably end up being married to a big, strong, good-looking rugby player.


Jep, especially if you're pale skinned :)


Correct. You'll be married within a week's time.



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05 Aug 2013, 10:24 am

Here is a list of the top 10 countries celebrating female obesity

http://www.toptenz.net/top-10-countries ... besity.php



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05 Aug 2013, 10:44 am

Some men like fat women, some don't, it's a matter of attraction.



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05 Aug 2013, 10:50 am

Men don't want fat women because fat women are less fertile.



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05 Aug 2013, 10:53 am

ArrantPariah wrote:
Speaking of the beauty standards of our remote ancestors

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With the Venus of Willendorf, again we see how mere survival is a part of their culture. It is commonly thought that these statues represent fertility, or the ideal woman that would be able to reproduce.



In some countries today, such as some South Pacific island nations, fat chicks are much preferred over thin. If you're a fat woman in need of love, then go to Tonga or Samoa. You will probably end up being married to a big, strong, good-looking rugby player.

IMO, I think the Venus is a poor example. Did it ever occur to anyone that perhaps the Venus of Willendorf is merely a specimen of an ancient sense of humor?