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Would you date someone fatter than you?
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12 Jul 2010, 2:00 pm

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I'm going into my senior year of college so I know about the freshman weight again. Sadly I've gone from 180 to 247 over these last three years and I long to be 180 again even though I thought I was fat then too.


Ok -- that's a 33% increase in size in about 3 years, and 180 is already very high for a woman, unless you're pushing 6 feet tall.

I would really reconsider seeing a doctor, a better one, on the issue, or honestly re-evaluating your eating habits. That's an enormous amount of body weight to gain for someone who says they are active and watching their caloric intake.

If you don't get this taken care of now, you could be cutting your lifespan by as much as 50%. Most of us already have health issues we have to watch out for without obesity -- obesity compounds the problem and will give you a lot more pain in your future, both emotional and physical, if you don't clamp down on it now.


At this point, I don't care if I do die so I guess I'm on the right track. :/



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12 Jul 2010, 2:00 pm

I have to work hard to keep my weight down, I even have a job that is physically demanding. If you can't commit yourself to something like this than you'll probably have to settle for something less than what you desire. It's hard to have it all.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:01 pm

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Because fat chicks are disgusting and unattractive.


How do I put this politely in a way that you can understand? Oh yes, screw you. Men like you aren't wanted here so get lost. :/


Sorry, but in a world where three quarters of the world is starving to death (Ive witnessed it first hand) obesity is just nonsensical and anybody complaining about their weight shouldn't be given the time of day. And I am overweight, too, but I don't complain about it. I know I got fat by eating crap, same as you.


I gained weight as a hormonal imbalance at the start of puberty, thank you very much. I do eat right but it doesn't make a difference for me. Guys have an easier time of losing weight than women do.

Also, why should I have to feel bad because third world countries can't get their act together?


Why should I feel bad for a "hormonal" girl who can't watch what she's eating. Plus every fat person says that line of crap - it ain't true.


And every shallow man says this crap. Get lost. I'm not in the mood to deal with your crap.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:02 pm

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I have to work hard to keep my weight down, I even have a job that is physically demanding. If you can't commit yourself to something like this than you'll probably have to settle for something less than what you desire. It's hard to have it all.


I don't have a job right now. Also, I'm not very flexible so I can't do a lot of the labor-intensive workouts.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:08 pm

Erisad wrote:
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I'm going into my senior year of college so I know about the freshman weight again. Sadly I've gone from 180 to 247 over these last three years and I long to be 180 again even though I thought I was fat then too.


That's a large amount in a short amount of time. Are you taking any medications? There are several medications that have weight gain as a possible side effect. Weight gain is a common side effect with SSRI's and practically guarenteed with Risperidal. If yo are taking any medications at all, investigate.

Another surprising thing that can cause weight gain is not getting enough sleep. If your study habits include studying late into the night and/or lots of coffee, lack of sleep could be the culprit. It has something to do with hormonal re-balancing that happens during deep sleep but not at other times. If your hormones are out of whack to begin with, you might be extra-susceptible.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:12 pm

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I'm going into my senior year of college so I know about the freshman weight again. Sadly I've gone from 180 to 247 over these last three years and I long to be 180 again even though I thought I was fat then too.


That's a large amount in a short amount of time. Are you taking any medications? There are several medications that have weight gain as a possible side effect. Weight gain is a common side effect with SSRI's and practically guarenteed with Risperidal. If yo are taking any medications at all, investigate.

Another surprising thing that can cause weight gain is not getting enough sleep. If your study habits include studying late into the night and/or lots of coffee, lack of sleep could be the culprit. It has something to do with hormonal re-balancing that happens during deep sleep but not at other times. If your hormones are out of whack to begin with, you might be extra-susceptible.


I'm on Adderall for ADHD and Celexa for depression. School stresses me out so much that I need both or I'll fail everything.

I have been sleeping for 7-8 hours every night, although the quality isn't very good considering that I'm being interrupted by drunks and fire alarms on most nights.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:13 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Erisad wrote:
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Because fat chicks are disgusting and unattractive.


How do I put this politely in a way that you can understand? Oh yes, screw you. Men like you aren't wanted here so get lost. :/


Sorry, but in a world where three quarters of the world is starving to death (Ive witnessed it first hand) obesity is just nonsensical and anybody complaining about their weight shouldn't be given the time of day. And I am overweight, too, but I don't complain about it. I know I got fat by eating crap, same as you.


I gained weight as a hormonal imbalance at the start of puberty, thank you very much. I do eat right but it doesn't make a difference for me. Guys have an easier time of losing weight than women do.

Also, why should I have to feel bad because third world countries can't get their act together?


Why should I feel bad for a "hormonal" girl who can't watch what she's eating. Plus every fat person says that line of crap - it ain't true.


And every shallow man says this crap. Get lost. I'm not in the mood to deal with your crap.


And its a man;s opinion that counts. Lose wegiht or do't get a boyfriend - that simple. Just ask ToadofSteel about his "luck" with women, and a lot of that has to do with his weight.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:15 pm

I've dated women fatter than me. I like someone I can hold onto without feeling like they'll break, lol. It's also nice to eat with someone who can keep up with you.

However, I'm quite unattracted to bad health. If you're a thick softball-player type who likes to be active, cool; let's get together. But if you sit around all the time and get winded walking up a flight of stairs, forget it.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:15 pm

Bugzee wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Bugzee wrote:
Erisad wrote:
Bugzee wrote:
Erisad wrote:
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Because fat chicks are disgusting and unattractive.


How do I put this politely in a way that you can understand? Oh yes, screw you. Men like you aren't wanted here so get lost. :/


Sorry, but in a world where three quarters of the world is starving to death (Ive witnessed it first hand) obesity is just nonsensical and anybody complaining about their weight shouldn't be given the time of day. And I am overweight, too, but I don't complain about it. I know I got fat by eating crap, same as you.


I gained weight as a hormonal imbalance at the start of puberty, thank you very much. I do eat right but it doesn't make a difference for me. Guys have an easier time of losing weight than women do.

Also, why should I have to feel bad because third world countries can't get their act together?


Why should I feel bad for a "hormonal" girl who can't watch what she's eating. Plus every fat person says that line of crap - it ain't true.


And every shallow man says this crap. Get lost. I'm not in the mood to deal with your crap.


And its a man;s opinion that counts. Lose wegiht or do't get a boyfriend - that simple. Just ask ToadofSteel about his "luck" with women, and a lot of that has to do with his weight.


What part of "go away" don't you understand? I don't need any more abuse right now.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:20 pm

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I would date someone who is fatter than I am, but only because I'm almost a skeleton so any girl who isn't anorexic is probably fatter than me. Someone who weighs 250 lbs? Hell, no. I don't see what's with all these fat people complaining that they can't get a date. All you gotta do is change your diet and exercise more. It's not like you were born with cleft lip or something.

I have a feeling a lot of fat people don't enjoy exercising. They feel like they're exercising a lot because they go to the gym maybe twice a week. The problem is they exercise to lose weight, not for pleasure. You have to enjoy it, otherwise you won't have the motivation to do it. I take walks every day, run through the woods, and run up and down steep hills, because it feels good. I don't just make a half-@$$ed attempt at it like most half-hearted dieters probably do.


This is harsh, but its not wrong. I personally started working out to lose weight, but fell in love quickly with the endorphin buzz and the transformation in physical appearance and the wonders it does for self esteem and confidence. My day is not complete without a good workout and missing it makes me agitated and restless.

I work very hard to stay in shape, why would I want to date someone who doesn't respect themselves or me enough to do the same? I know weight control is hard, thats why I fight it every day. Sorry you haven't gotten the pity party you were hoping for, but this something you can fix and control on your own. You don't need liposuction, you need determination. Quit wasting time feeling sorry for yourself and start solving the problem.



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12 Jul 2010, 2:20 pm

Erisad wrote:
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Why should I feel bad for a "hormonal" girl who can't watch what she's eating. Plus every fat person says that line of crap - it ain't true.


And every shallow man says this crap. Get lost. I'm not in the mood to deal with your crap.


http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131236.html

Not only shallow, but evidently a total hypocrite too.


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12 Jul 2010, 2:26 pm

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Guys have an easier time of losing weight than women do.


Wrong. Depends on the individual in question, their genetic make-up, diet and exercise regime etc. Their gender is completely irrelevant.

No offense but you are now coming across as attention seeking and taking the p*ss. Your just making excuses for all the advice you have been given here.

Nobody here can help you, simply because you are not prepared to help yourself.


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12 Jul 2010, 2:34 pm

polarity wrote:
Erisad wrote:
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Why should I feel bad for a "hormonal" girl who can't watch what she's eating. Plus every fat person says that line of crap - it ain't true.


And every shallow man says this crap. Get lost. I'm not in the mood to deal with your crap.


http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131236.html

Not only shallow, but evidently a total hypocrite too.


What's your point, there, polarity. Yeah I've smoked but I don't blame that on "hormones". Please explain how I am being a hypocrite?

All this girl wants to do is whine and make excuses instead of seeking real lhelp. That's starting to become a tireless trend here in the love & dating forum. :roll:



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12 Jul 2010, 2:35 pm

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I don't have a job right now. Also, I'm not very flexible so I can't do a lot of the labor-intensive workouts.


You won't get flexible until you start losing weight. A body can't bend in the middle until it has a visible middle.

You asked a question and when you get an honest answer, its 'shallow' Well, the principles of human attraction start with the visual, especially so for men. That's a fact and it isn't going to change, ever. So if you want your situation to be different, the change has to be made elsewhere.

Besides, would you really believe someone loved you who was perfectly okay with you developing heart disease and diabetes? Seriously? I mean, there are 'chubby chasers' out there who will feed you until you pop like a tick and think that's hot as hell. And that's not being superficial? :roll:



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12 Jul 2010, 2:38 pm

I must confess that I have trouble identifying with people who want to lose weight but can't. I always think, "why not just eat one medium-sized meal a day, and drink water as your only liquid?" Surely the weight would just roll off? Then again, I'm the kind of person who often forgets to eat.


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12 Jul 2010, 2:40 pm

I used to be very overweight when I was a teenager and thought a guy of average weight wouldn't want to date me.

Looking back at those photos of myself, I think I was actually fairly good looking for someone who was so overweight though I'm still not sure that a highschool aged guy of normal weight would have dated me.

Guys in their 20's and 30's are usually a little different because they've had time to learn that it's more difficult to find someone with a good personality than someone with a good body.

There are guys who only want rail thin girls, and these are typically white guys (I'm not saying all or most white guys are like this though) and they are typically jerks.. They will consider a girl of average weight to be over weight.

I've noticed black guys tend to like women to be heavier than average, and to Mexican and American and Mexican guys, weight seems to be entirely irrelevant and it's not unusual to see a very heavy woman with a very thin guy.

I think though, in general, there is a perception about overweight people concerning lifestyle. When looking for mates, people generally seem to want someone who isn't sedentary, and takes initiative in life, and being overweight can be seen as an indication the person does not do this.

Their reasoning is, if you are overweight you are probably fairly inactive, and don't take initiative to obtain that which you want, because you probably don't want to be overweight, and still are.
Further more, being overweight can also limit you in certain physical activities.

I'm going to be honest, I'd like a partner at least as active as me in life. If I think a guy is the type to get the bulk of their entertainment from sitting around watching TV and playing video games, or watching spectator sports, then they are not for me.

Then again, a lot of overweight people gained the weight at a particular point in their life, and no longer lead the lifestyle or have the medical condition that caused them to gain the weight, and just haven't lost it because that requires calorie restriction coupled with increased activity, and they may have increased their activity but not restricted their calories below a certain level.