I feel cheated out of life...

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Aspie Chav

That's true for men but not for women.

Being married - gives men a longer healthier life on average.

Being single - gives women a longer healthier life on average.

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Maybe fearless is right.

However I'd find sharing a house with someone else, but particularily a bloke - very stressful, and being stressed shortens your life. Every bloke I've shared with has made more work than he's done around the house.

I do believe that to a certain extent Aspies are immune to stress. The is a lot of stress associated with social climbing and all those game that NTs play. So whether they are high status or low Aspies level of stress would be the same.

I bought the wild-divine biofeedback machine, and my stress levels was low compared my sisters.

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I think I'd be fairly unstressed if I stayed at home and did nothing much but eat and read books all day.

I have noticed that blokes can be much less stressed than women at home. Especially blokes who don't mind living in a complete pig sty. I'm much less stressed when the bloke is not there.

Do you ever replace the toilet paper on the roll when you use the last bit? I know that's a petty example but if you're not the doing it every time you use the last sheet, you're making work and maybe stress for someone else. And it's cumulative.

I'd rather live alone.

I think that action, even small actions, help lift depression.

I think sometimes if a person thinks about all the past and all the future they get bogged down and it seems too impossible to change. But the thing is just do what you can do in one day. Pick something to make yourself feel happier even if it is something small and not necessarily life changing. You don't have to get a high paying job, move out and find a girl all in one go... or even quickly.

Rather than think this will never happen... which isn't so... and by the way a lot of people take a long time to make these things happen and it's OK... Think of what you can do to have more fun today. Have fun, learn something new, etc. Don't blame yourself or beat yourself up for the past. Just think about today for now. What is a small thing you can think of today, to make something about your life better. Even if it's just dusting the room. Even if it's just having fun somehow.

Also I think something to think about in a positive fashion. Try to actively find books which will cheer you up. These things may sound silly but maybe give it all a try. Do not think past (beyond) today for a while... think about one thing to do that day. Then do your best to do it... something feasible. Something a person can pull off in one day. Before long you may feel up to a week long project. And I mean it doesn't matter if it is job or girl related. Just to get the feeling you can do it (complete a project of your choosing; there's joy in that).

Are you into creative things? Keep that going. That may raise your mood a bit. Is there a job you can train for online and do online? That may be a start. But don't put the cart before the horse. I think doing things you simply enjoy and doing things that give you a sense of completion... even if it is a game or a puzzle... are a good start. About making friends... there really is no 'normal"... a lot of NTs have trouble with this also. People move, change, are fickle. Most people have acquaintances, real friends are hard for anyone to find really. Don't feel as if it's 'you' on that point.

Have you tried counseling? That may help with your self image and with "learning" socialising and so forth. There are ways to make small talk, I guess. But remember not all socialising has to be at a party... some people meet others through common interests. Try online gaming maybe?? As a start.

I hope any of this has helped. You sound like a sensitive person. The world can always use those. Stick around.