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12 Jan 2011, 1:00 pm

As an aspie guy what problems can i expect in the dating world?

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12 Jan 2011, 1:05 pm

Lots. I think God intended for us to NOT date and be sad, lonely, depressed and suicidal.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:11 pm

false!
see all the aspie men around here who are a hit with the ladies and in relationships.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:16 pm

Oh great so i have a life of misery ahead of me

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12 Jan 2011, 1:19 pm

Jamesy wrote:

Oh great so i have a life of misery ahead of me

Yep. Aspie men are just f****d, period. I'm considering suicide if I can't get into a relationship soon or if the only girl I manage to find is a prude or she's got issues herself.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:20 pm

It's like an uphill hike, in the snow, with 50mph winds blowing in your face to fetch a hamburger.

Dating is not something we're well designed for.

It's possible, but the effort usually outweighs the reward. Depends how hungry you are of course.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:21 pm

nthach wrote:

Lots. I think God intended for us to NOT date and be sad, lonely, depressed and suicidal.

It's Darwinism at work. We are the weakest links socially. It would be much better if we had arranged marriages instead of us trying to do it ourselves. I WISH we had that option

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12 Jan 2011, 1:21 pm

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I like the metaphor.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:22 pm

Do your dating online, I did and I had two gfs and met one offline.I'm still single now though.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:22 pm

nthach wrote:

Lots. I think God intended for us to NOT date and be sad, lonely, depressed and suicidal.

You know me, I am FAR from being a Pollyana, that's for people in happy relationships.

But on the other hand, the thing about love/romance is that something actually could happen suddenly that changes everything.

Yes it's pretty improbable, but certainly not impossible - and I would like to be around when/if it happens...

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12 Jan 2011, 1:26 pm

People fail to realize how much injustice and sexisim there is in the dating world.

It has to change :evil:

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12 Jan 2011, 1:27 pm

Jamesy wrote:

People fail to realize how much injustice and sexisim there is in the dating world.

It has to change :evil:

Oh dear, please don't start another 'women have it easier' type thread!

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12 Jan 2011, 1:30 pm

sorry but come on everyone needs relationships in thier lives.

What about non autistic men who are shy and not great social skills they must suffer as well?

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12 Jan 2011, 1:33 pm

Jamesy wrote:

sorry but come on everyone needs relationships in thier lives.

What about non autistic men who are shy and not great social skills they must suffer as well?

Probably just as non-autistic women who are shy and don't have great social skills.
All people suffer to an extent at dating.
I'd be very surprised if anyone has got EVERY person they've ever wanted.

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12 Jan 2011, 1:34 pm

Jamesy wrote:

sorry but come on everyone needs relationships in thier lives.

What about non autistic men who are shy and not great social skills they must suffer as well?

I know lots who have a very difficult time & I know women who also lots of problems finding dates because of their looks or their personalities. I think me & some other Aspies would do much better in a relationship than trying to find one because of our social issues which is why we should have arrange marriages so we can skip that step

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12 Jan 2011, 1:35 pm

Why do you think aspie men have it harder than shy non autistic guys?

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