Is religious belief that important to you in a relationship?

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You'd think so, but I was surprised when I dated religious girls. Their personalities were such that they stayed devout, but never pressured me to buy into their belief. I think they just assumed I was Christian of some kind, but it worked out well in the long run.

What do you think? Is it important to you at all?

I could never date someone religious. I even struggle when other atheists celebrate christmas and easter.

I dated a jewish boy once that ended in me being asked to leave after I mentioned i was anti-RIC

Yes, theistic NON-belief is important to me.

I'm very religious, but why is it such a big deal? As long as we care about each other and respect each others beliefs, I don't see what the problem is.

It's my family that would freak out. My grandparents and father want a tall, handsome Catholic, my stepdad wants a rich, sexy Protestant war machine, my mom doesn't care, and my brothers are insistant on bad-boy athiests. Apparently I have no say in the matter .

I don't know if I could date someone with religious views too much unlike my own, I'd be constantly disagreeing with them and if they were really religious it would drive me mad and it just wouldn't be much fun.

I'm atheist......religiosity isn't necessarily a deal-breaker, but it sets off a warning bell. The more intense the reilgion, the louder the bell.

I know it can work OK between an atheist and a theist.....it helps when the religious one avoids saying that there is a god and the atheist avoids saying there isn't. It means that there's an area of life that the religious one can't share with the atheist, and if the religiosity is intense then that could be seen as a very important area......for the atheist there might be problems with the SO putting lots of energy into the religion, church etc., instead of into the relationship.

But it depends on the people. Religion can be used as a horrific weapon if two people really want to hurt each other. Even within religion there's no hiding place from hate. A Catholic friend of mine told me that one thing that caused an incredible amount of ill-feeling with her ex was that he felt that morality was set in stone and handed down from above, while she felt that it was down to the individual to define their own idea of right and wrong for themselves, according to their personal experience. Go figure.

I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing that many people stick with those that share similar ideals to them. "Birds of a feather" and all that.