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11 Jul 2011, 7:10 pm

Hello, I have a question.

My friends and I went out last night. It was a mixed bunch of us i.e there were guys and girls at the table we were sitting in. They were drinking alcohol, I wasn't due to my meds. Anyway half way through the night, another friend showed up with his girlfriend. They are both my friends and I haver socialised with them before. When they got to us, the girlfriend gave me a hug to say 'Hi' as usual. They then sat with their other friends at another table. After a while, the girlfriend came over to our table again when the boyfriend wasn't there. She said that she saw me sitting there and wanted to say 'Hi'. Anyway, she left soon after to return to her table.

At the end of the night they decided to leave before we did. She came to our table to say goodbye. Since the spacing was cramped, she couldn't hug us goodbye and instead she hi-fived us as a way of saying bye. When it was my turn to hi-five her, I put up my hand and she hi-fived me then she held on to my hand and ran her fingers through mine. This confused me because she didn't do this to any of my other friends (girls and guys) What does this mean?



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11 Jul 2011, 7:38 pm

DO heed this warning. STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER GUYS GIRL. It doesn't matter if she likes you or not. How would you like it if she did that to you? Ya got a big knob or something? Look, just wait it out and hear about the big break-up and THEN see if she's still interested.
People still high-five...........ewe. Oh, and another thing, after they left, did she have sex with him or you?



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11 Jul 2011, 8:41 pm

I'd say she definitely has special affection for you of some sort. I couldn't say more. She could very well like you but be attached to her boyfriend at the same time obviously.



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12 Jul 2011, 1:29 am

Yeah, I was going to put that in my post that I didn't want to do anything. Also seeing as I'm clueless when it comes to this stuff, I couldn't do anything anyway so (to whoever posted first) please chill. I didn't want it to seem as though I was some d!ck who was after my friends girl.

Also, to poster # 1 I don't want to start a flame war but you could have made your comment without insulting me. If that is the way It's going to be then I'm sorry for asking. Good day.



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12 Jul 2011, 4:44 pm

You didn't do anything wrong. It does sound like something but if she was drinking a bit, it might not mean anything later. Just look on at as a nice memory.



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16 Jul 2011, 2:25 pm

RightGalaxy wrote:
DO heed this warning. STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER GUYS GIRL. It doesn't matter if she likes you or not. How would you like it if she did that to you? Ya got a big knob or something? Look, just wait it out and hear about the big break-up and THEN see if she's still interested.
People still high-five...........ewe. Oh, and another thing, after they left, did she have sex with him or you?


This is very wise advice.

And I doubt any of that means she likes you anyway TBH...



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17 Jul 2011, 10:34 am

Asp-Z wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
DO heed this warning. STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER GUYS GIRL. It doesn't matter if she likes you or not. How would you like it if she did that to you? Ya got a big knob or something? Look, just wait it out and hear about the big break-up and THEN see if she's still interested.
People still high-five...........ewe. Oh, and another thing, after they left, did she have sex with him or you?


This is very wise advice.

And I doubt any of that means she likes you anyway TBH...


Bah, this advice is luke warm at best. Certainly if it's your friend's girlfriend, and you value your friendship, then yes..stay clear.

But if this dude was a stranger, and they were a couple, then in fact, you have every right to see where this leads. Why? Because often some women move from guy to guy, and will hang on to the first even while in transition. That doesn't make her bad or you bad. What you're doing, however, is letting HER decide what to do.

For example, what if she were stuck in an abusive relationship and had decided it was time to find someone better? You may very well be that 'someone better'. But you won't know, and neither will she, unless you try and pursue it. There's a thread on this front page in fact where a woman left an ass for an Aspie.

I used to make the mistake of deciding FOR the girl of interest what would work and what wouldn't. Don't do that.



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17 Jul 2011, 11:53 am

I know it might sound far-fetched but both times that I've been in a similar situation it turned out that the couple was interested in a threesome with myself. while this might not be the case here, they might just be opening their relationship. if I were you I wouldn't do anything without the guy's consent though, and definitely don't approach him about it unless he mentions it first.

then again, she might just be a slut or bored with the boyfriend. as long as you're not a d**k to go behind your friend's back it might be interesting to watch the turn of events :lol:


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18 Jul 2011, 4:09 am

AsteroidNap wrote:
Bah, this advice is luke warm at best. Certainly if it's your friend's girlfriend, and you value your friendship, then yes..stay clear.

But if this dude was a stranger, and they were a couple, then in fact, you have every right to see where this leads. Why? Because often some women move from guy to guy, and will hang on to the first even while in transition. That doesn't make her bad or you bad. What you're doing, however, is letting HER decide what to do.

So if one member of the couple is a friend, don't hit on her, but if neither are friends, do hit on her? The morality and logic of that is questionable at best.



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18 Jul 2011, 12:58 pm

From experience with this situation it is best to stay clear from the girl in question because all to often they are too unstable to even have a decent relationship and you end up feeling used. This type of girl is trouble to begin with! Save yourself the heartache.



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19 Jul 2011, 2:50 pm

Lazenca_x wrote:
Hello, I have a question.

My friends and I went out last night. It was a mixed bunch of us i.e there were guys and girls at the table we were sitting in. They were drinking alcohol, I wasn't due to my meds. Anyway half way through the night, another friend showed up with his girlfriend. They are both my friends and I haver socialised with them before. When they got to us, the girlfriend gave me a hug to say 'Hi' as usual. They then sat with their other friends at another table. After a while, the girlfriend came over to our table again when the boyfriend wasn't there. She said that she saw me sitting there and wanted to say 'Hi'. Anyway, she left soon after to return to her table.

At the end of the night they decided to leave before we did. She came to our table to say goodbye. Since the spacing was cramped, she couldn't hug us goodbye and instead she hi-fived us as a way of saying bye. When it was my turn to hi-five her, I put up my hand and she hi-fived me then she held on to my hand and ran her fingers through mine. This confused me because she didn't do this to any of my other friends (girls and guys) What does this mean?


It definitely means she likes you. Straight forward answer tbh.

But I wouldn't go for someone like her, especially if she has a bf already.


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19 Jul 2011, 3:05 pm

Sometimes women show an interest in someone they are not dating in order to coax that person to show an interest back. Just because she is flirting physically doesn't mean that she wants a relationship or even intimacy.

This is what I always have a problem with, actually. She could just be trying to get you to show an interest because she is down and wants to feel sexy. She could be angry at her boyfriend and trying to punish him by flirting with one of his friends. She could be in heat and trying to coax her boyfriend into doing more with her by making him feel jealous by seeing her flirting with someone else.

There are so many possible motivations behind that one gesture, just having identified it as sexual in nature actually doesn't help at all in deciding where to take it from there...



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19 Jul 2011, 3:29 pm

AsteroidNap wrote:
Asp-Z wrote:
RightGalaxy wrote:
DO heed this warning. STAY AWAY FROM ANOTHER GUYS GIRL. It doesn't matter if she likes you or not. How would you like it if she did that to you? Ya got a big knob or something? Look, just wait it out and hear about the big break-up and THEN see if she's still interested.
People still high-five...........ewe. Oh, and another thing, after they left, did she have sex with him or you?


This is very wise advice.

And I doubt any of that means she likes you anyway TBH...


Bah, this advice is luke warm at best. Certainly if it's your friend's girlfriend, and you value your friendship, then yes..stay clear.

But if this dude was a stranger, and they were a couple, then in fact, you have every right to see where this leads. Why? Because often some women move from guy to guy, and will hang on to the first even while in transition. That doesn't make her bad or you bad. What you're doing, however, is letting HER decide what to do.

For example, what if she were stuck in an abusive relationship and had decided it was time to find someone better? You may very well be that 'someone better'. But you won't know, and neither will she, unless you try and pursue it. There's a thread on this front page in fact where a woman left an ass for an Aspie.

I used to make the mistake of deciding FOR the girl of interest what would work and what wouldn't. Don't do that.


If you take a girl from another guy like that, she's likely to let another guy do the same when she's with you, remember.

Also, as CrinklyCrustacean, the morality and logic of your post is certainly questionable.