It's not just aspie men that are confused and oblivious

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I came across this thread on Reddit: Men of Reddit. How do you react when girls openly flirt with you?

Many of the comments from men there are very similar to what I've read right here. In a way, it's comforting to know NT males can be equally confused by female "hints" and "signals" and mixed messages. (Yeah, OK, I'm sure a number of redditors are aspies, too.) On the other hand, if it's more common than I previously thought, then it's all the more surprising that women don't get the hint that men don't get the hint!

Yep. People have books, blogs, podcasts, articles, and more on how to figure each other out and get a date for a reason.

I think Cosmo's tips might be making things worse, though...

It's pretty common knowledge that the male brains are more autistic than women's (autistic women excluded). Evolutionarily, women are required to be more selective (and thus more able to use and read social signals) in the search for a mate.

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It's not possible that they could read anyone's minds directly and thus know by default that men lack some of those abilities, so it's just a natural side effect that they tend to assume that everyone is as capable of using social signals as them.

While Wikipedia is nice to use, it might have been better if you used the links in those footnotes OlivG.

It probably has been discussed many times on this forum, but women signal interest and men either pick up on it or not. Hence men are the ones that have to do the pick ups or asking out. As a relationship unfolds, women may get frustrated at the man's inability to read her mind and will say things that the man will interpret as "criticizing". Women also complain that men are confusing and difficult to understand as well. Who would have thought?

I'm fixing to be fifty and I'm still confused.
That's why I stay at home mostly.
I tried going to parties and get togethers,it was no better than grade school.Always the same people at them,like some sort of Groundhog Day party.Even the music would be the same.The same small talk.Not even worth the gas or the time to get ready.

It's been common knowledge for ice-ages that hetro-guys are not the first and finest example of fine-tuned social understanding and perception.

Blundering oaf is a much more accurate term.

jesus, not this evo-psych stuff again. I thought it had died a well-deserved death in the '00s. The way you guys make a beeline for the least reliable sources on sex and women is astonishing to me. It's surefire.

I love the very serious sex studies that go on at college campuses, too, as though they're representative of anything but...college campuses.

But it refers to 'evolution' in the title! Only creationists question evolution! etc.

I guess it's a lot safer to consider women theoretically (however wacky the theory), to create an abstract 'woman' who can then stand in for all women everywhere ever, than actually get to know some.