First intimacy with girl

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Tonight I watched a movie with a girl I've been dating for the past 2 weeks. We cuddled, tongue kissed a bit, and I tried to have sex with her, but she told me she "isn't really into sex," "wants to discover herself," "likes me," and "wants to take it slow". We spent about 3 1/2 hours together alone in my dorm room. This is a girl whom I suspect has aspergers. What to make of it?

She likes you. Just take it slow.

She allowed you to tongue-kiss her. That's a definite positive.

It sounds like she just isn't ready for sex yet. Maybe she is nervous or frightened. If she is a virgin it could be especially scary. Just be understanding and accepting

She clearly said she liked you and kiss you so like kraftie said it's a positive thing.

Dude, you've been dating the girl for only 2 weeks and you're already trying to get into her panties?

So what? LOL..... If she likes him like that he can get into her panties all he wants.

Yeah, relax man. You're good. Just let her tell you how far she wants to go with things.

You're on the right track. It's not the sort of thing you can put pressure on or have any control over. Just keep doign exactly what you been doing.

You are going good with this girl; take it slow.
Bring up the topic in a few days, make it clear that you are not pressuring her, but that you would like to help her overcome her hesitations, if you can

You don't necessarily have to bring up the topic.

Just kiss her hand.....and see where the hand guides you.

Sometimes, girls like to be assertive in that sense. They guide your hand to where they want to be caressed.

Definitely don't go for her Nether Regions unless either she places your hands there, or you discuss it beforehand. After she has allowed you to caress and-or lick/suck her breasts/nipples.

Make darn sure your body and your breath are both clean. There's nothing that turns off a girl more than bad breath. Don't be self-conscious about it---just make sure you brush your teeth, use mouthwash, maybe chew some spearmint gum, and wear clean clothes.

In other words, just "go with the flow"--but don't go directly to her Nether Regions unless you discuss it first or she guides your hand there.

2 weeks can be a bit quick especially if she is a virgin. Just give her time to get more comfortable with you and the idea. She will probably want to trust you like completely so she knows you will try your best to make the first time not hurt.

Like kraftie said go with the flow. I would also just be patient. She likes making out so do loads of that

My next question is: should I talk about it with her? I feel that I messed up a bit by making her feel uncomfortable and putting her on the spot.

I wouldn't talk about it for at least a couple of months if I were you.

If you bring up sex too early in the relationship, some girls would think you don't respect them.

But If she guides your hand towards her nether regions, I would think that she has an interest in sex. Still, don't assume she wants sex right there. This indicates that she's open to talking about it,

If she allows you to caress her nether regions under her clothes, it means she desires more. Still, if you try and she still says no, it's still no.

Well, looks like I'm going to have to talk to her. She messaged me saying she wants to have a chat with me tomorrow morning before class.