How do I ask for this woman's address without seeming eager?

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once again, if she wants you to have her address for ANY reason INCLUDING sex, she will give it to you freely. why would you need the address unless she is explicitly needing you to come over?

Well as I mentioned before. We both agreed that we are attracted to each other sexually, so I don't see what I said as creepy. Creepy would be like if the woman has no interest in me at all and I just ignore all the signs and peek into her window. That is creepy. I want a relationship with her, but that doesn't mean I have to keep the truth of my desire a secret. Nothing wrong with going to someone's house to have sex. Isn't that what most people do in this world? Find a mate and then mate? I am totally cool with going out to dinner with her, but I guess I am more anxious because of the fact that she showed a lot of sexual interest in me.

That doesn't always seem to be correct because I have met women in the past who wanted to have sex with me, BUT they were too shy to invite me to their homes. She is shy. So I would most likely need to be a little more aggressive or wind up alone in my room.

dude you can't just go to somebody's house to have sex! that's not what people do!

wait to be invited like any other sane person.

She is Japanese. 99.99% of the Japanese women that I have dated NEVER invited me to their homes. Even the ones who wanted to have sex! So what you telling me will actually never get me laid. I am not at all trying to sound rude, but based on my past life exprience...this has been the case.

What you need is an invitation, not an address.

Even "Can I come over some time?" is better than "Can I have your address?".

aggressive means making out and suggesting sex, then she would decide with you where to go. at THAT point she would give you her address. until that moment you do not need her address for any reason. you are making it sound like you want to show up at her door unannounced.

so what you are essentially saying is that your getting laid is more important that the girl's wishes.

No because saying "Can I come over?" makes me sound timid and shy. I will sound like a nice guy that is nervous and afraid. Everytime I asked for things in the past from women I am rejected. Nobody ever goes "Hey...can I kiss you?" and actually gets kiseed. I'm sure it happens, but usually it winds up in rejection because the woman thinks you should not have aksed and just went for it. I might say something like: "Let's hangout. Can I have you address?" That might work out better.

women giving out their addresses, or not, does not equal willingness to have sex (or not). the two things are unrelated. if she agrees to have sex you can figure out where to go afterward. if she says no to sex, and you have her address, would you just go over there with no permission?

Ummm...no because she told me she wants to have sex with me. So her wishes seem congruent with meeting somewhere private for sex. I will have dinner with her too. It's not like I only want to get laid. Sorry if that is how it is coming off. I will not deny the fact that I am interested in her sexually.

Maybe you deleted the posts where I mentioned she wants to have sex with me.

did she say that explicitly Alienboy?

if she did, my guess is she's expecting you to suggest a hotel.

Yes she specifically said you are really sexy. I want to have sex with you. Those were her words. Alright that sounds like a better idea. It would have to be a nice hotel of course. Not some dingy s**thole motel. Would even inviting her to a nice hotel make her seem like I'm treating her like a prostitute? That is the main reason why I usually refrained from the hotel dates in the past. For you ladies on here. If a guy that you wanted to have sex with invited you to a hotel...wouldn't you seem at least a little bit whorish? That was a serious question.

ah well, whoever here isn't guilty of casual sexual relationships with randomly met strangers, both online and offline, cast the first stone! sure isn't going to be me

first of all, if she said something like this to you online before she even met you in person, I don't think she would consider anything "whorish" (and I mean it in the nicest of ways). if I were you, I'd have a look around for nice hotels in the area, don't book it though. if at the end of the night you make out and it's looking promising, suggest the hotel. if she suggests you go to her place, all the better. if she wants to part ways, leave it at that and hope she sees you again.

also, don't treat whatever she might have said online as a contract, or a promise of any kind. remember you haven't even properly met yet!

Yeah I should just hangout with her and see how things go. She seems interested enough. If she changes her mind then oh well. There are a lot of women in the world right? She at least got a good look at me on my webcam and showed interest. She told me I can text her anytime. So those are really good signs right?