How to Tell When a Girl is Flirting?

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Hello,
It has recently dawned on me that I am very, very, very bad at knowing when a girl is flirting with me. First let me explain that I have been taking violin lessons now for over a year with a young woman who I have been told by friends is been trying to flirt with me. However, I did not, and still cannot, see what they were talking about. During my last lesson, she became very forward and wanted to have sex with me (she is married so I said no.) If you were to put me in the same situation again I would have no clue what was going on until a question like that is asked. How can I tell if a girl is attracted to me?

When she sits on your lap and gropes your crouch.

Huh, I wouldn't have thought of that.

She may catch you eye, look down, look back up and smile at you. if you are speaking to each other she will angle her body towards yours. Look at her eyes, you can tell a lot from her eyes when she's smiling or laughing. She may casualy touch your arm or leg. She may lean up against you during a big laugh. She may play with her hair or other self-grooming gestures. She may look at you when she thinks you're not looking.

Lot's of these things were noticable to me when I was dating. I had a hard time acting on them because of inexperience and nervousness. Keep going though, you'll feel it whne a girl is flirting. If you have to "guess" if she's flirting or not, she either isn't or is a bad flirter. If you get one of those, try flirting a little yourself and see what the reaction is.

Apparently that is just about what happened!!

When she gets mad at you for not giving her your attention.

Too true. Well, that isn't technically flirting, but I get you.

Hey Sherlock03.

It's often common for us to not pick up on when a woman is flirting.

I usually find a tell-tale sign of when a woman flirts with me, is flirting with me, is the unusual candid nature, sudden interest, and willingness to talk about anything, and everything really, often leaning towards racier content.

Because I tend to be so candid and honest in nature about things (and sometimes excessive), I often get accused for flirting with the opposite sex.

So now, at times, I even go to some lengths of saying that I'm gay (indirectly of course), because nine times out of ten, the girls that I just want a friendly, polite conversation with, think that I'm after more.

I'm not saying you should do the same if you come across as flirty though.

Oh dear, I've gone off on a tangent again, nevermind, hope this helps nonetheless mate.

Not necessarily true. Seems most just want your attention and that's about it.

When she starts to stare at you at a place that the both of you go to, and does it from a distance far enough so you see her.

Yea, I do the same thing but I never would have thought that honesty could be taken as flirting.

I hate being stared at. Usually I ask the girl if there is a problem, which seems to solve the issue.

I have a talent with most woman of knowing exactly the wrong thing to say at precisely the wrong time.

when a girl flirts, first thing i see is smile and just plain conversation with a smart ideas to lighten the mood. almost had no girls ever touch me in a way i feel uncomfortable. the problem is women sometimes take advantage and make us look like idiots just for their entertainment. sometimes they fake.

Me too, especially during adolescence.

the real question is how do you flirt back?

I never flirt back intentionally, because I cannot tell if the girl is flirting. When I like a girl usually I ask her questions about herself until she says something I know about. On the other hand, sometimes I talk about things and try to show off my knowledge or skills. This does not always go well! Once the girl I liked had the last name of Burks, so I being a history buff automatically began talking about the famous body snatcher of Edinburg, and how her name was tied to the term called burking. In hindsight, I should have said it was a nice name and stopped talking.