Does anyone actually look for woman with a personality?

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Imagine someone who ignores your every desire and, more than insists, forces you to have things their way all the time.

Man or woman, there's lots of people like this. The outside, working world admires it and sees these people as "taking charge and getting things done" when, really, they're just big bullies who push everyone around and force their will on everyone - including their family. My mother and several workmates have been this type and it was a living hell.

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That's not "strong", that's forceful and controlling.

One can be strong and still be kind.

Calling it like it is will go a fair way to clear up the confusion

They won't up and call themselves "controlling psychos" though... makes for a lousy dating profile.

Many people who consider themselves "strong willed" are too strong...

someone strong but healthy, I might consider "well grounded", "reasonable", "fair and honest".... even "tough but fair"...

...hard to put words on something so many people see as just unconscious instinct!

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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww BM *hugs*

You get on with me - most of the time anyways.

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You're as bad as MXH - "Stripes, dots, it's all the same".

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Oops... wrong kitty. Surprisingly, no leopard hugging pics out there except for babies... lots of bandages though.

I've not met anyone who fits me right, so I'm not going to look for somebody like that. Somebody who I can tolerate and somebody who can tolerate me is all I want. I'm not going to waste my life hoping for something that might not happen.

While a good personality is definitely a must for any kind of inter-personal socialization, I have never understood all the people who claimed that compatible personalities are all that matter in heterosexual relationships. If that were true, men and women might as well simply stick to calling each other platonic friends. Why call it anything else if you have no interest in sexual intercourse whatsoever?

Totally. I'm pretty used to being single, it's not something that bothers me anymore. I've found that I'm happier single than with a girl that doesn't have some awesome things about her... I guess I've become pretty picky since I realized being single is great in it's own way.

Probably means I'll be single a long while, but I don't care. Settling is not an option. Been there, done that. Never again.

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Yes I found many women with personality I like but they are always old or married/in a relationship.

I doubt it.

I don't actually "look" for anything, just have to find them attractive, and yes, looks tend to be the first thing you will notice about someone.

But then, I never get rid of a Woman because her looks are not good enough, I get rid of them because of how bad the personality is, and this is during the courtship stage when you think they are trying to be on their best behavior that they are lying, nagging and accusing you of meaning something negative in every word you say, what would these insane creatures be like once they had you and wernt trying to impress you!

If a lady seems awesome, I talk to her regardless of her being out of my league, that is why I still have friends that would like to see me back in college with them. The friend zone is the best place to be till you know a girl you hang out with is interested.

My personality type is someone that likes to think like me and just love computers, gaming, and watches tv that has funny comedy. likes swimming and loves to walk and talk about general. someone that is lovable and understanding. smart person like me and is honest. not a liar etc.

A problem for me is that I like someone but can get bored of them quickly if they show no intellect. The worse problem is people realise I'm smart and feel unable to compete with that. I've had a girl try to impress me by trying to explain what it means to reinstall a computer system and she had blatantly asked her sister who knew all that. I think there's a deep fear in people sometimes that they wont connect or will never be enough when they realize I'm intellectual, so it's probably two-fold to success for them to be intellectual to begin with.

That said a friend came out and said something to me that completely shocked me once. That is, that I gravitate towards artsy girls - women who like poetry, art, music, drawing, etc. It was a completely astonishing absolute fact that I'd overlooked. I think that could signify a woman with a greater sense of sensitivity and emotion. So I think what we want and what we need are two very different things.

... and maybe the reality is I just need way too much from a woman


Which is a joke btw but it's a tall order still maybe.

I value looks and personality equally; good morals I value more. However, I'll admit I'm weird compared to most. I obsess over math and music, and am childlike in many ways; for example, does anyone cartoons?. It is going to take a special (I don't mean that as dumb, but unique) woman to tolerate me...lol But at least I'm honest, and mean no harm to anyone. I am not even sure if the right woman for me exists out there. (Gets a geiger counter to look for a woman with a magnetic personality)