some aspie women get dates,other aspie women can't

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So you also think unattractive men without aspergers can’t get anyone. I see them with partners all the time. You said yourself that noone was interested when you weren’t overweight either. That indicates that it isn’t about weight.

They’re musclar not fat.

You see tons of fat aspies all the time?

I’m not implying that they don’t. I’m implying that it’s stupid to solely blame looks for your reason for being single. Aspie traits are very unattractive to a lot of women, but noone wants to hear it.

I see tons of fat men who are in relationships or dating on a daily basis. I should have clarified that they’re probably not aspies.

So which is it do you struggle to find relationship or can you get one easily?
You’ve stated both but both can’t be true 0.o

She isn't interested in one right now or she is going through a rough time in life, or something like that. Hard for me to tell, but she's probably busy with something else. There are plenty of reasons not to date. Dating can be very expensive and take up a lot of time. Dating also takes a lot of mental energey and emotional energy too. Some guys can be so disgusting and rude that it makes her not want to date again.

When I talk about struggling, it’s not in a romantic sense. It’s being ignored by people in general due to some aspie flaw.

A lot of guys aren’t interested in me, but to be honest, I am not interested in them, either.

When I was younger I was treated badly in relationships, but that wasn’t because of looks, it was because of my low self esteem, and letting them treat me like that.

All my relationship or dating “problems” were caused by my low self esteem, nothing else.

Lots of guys are disgusting and rude and see women as sex objects.
She said she struggles finding relationships just like us apsie men then says she could get a bf easily. 0.o very few women struggle like loser aspie men do. I’m single cause no woman will agree to give me a chance and go on a date not cause I could get a gf easy but don’t want to.
That’s my issue. If she doesn’t want to far cause bad experience that’s understandable and ok but she should say she struggles getting relationships.

I’d gladly offer her comfort . I don’t doubt she could been used and mistreated by guys and that’s terrible:(

Apsie traits require spending time around talking to a aspie to detect. Most people think I’m normal until I told them I was aspie.

Non of that matters since I can’t get dates. Women wouldn’t notice til we dated for few weeks. But theblook at my ugly face or my job and say no date for you.

Do you know they dating? And is the woman fat or skinny? What’s their job and income.

How many fat ugly, unemployed men do you see in relationships? It’s a combination of things that turn women off. They might date a highly paid fat guy or a attractive thin unemployed guy but they wouldn’t likely date a man who has both and other negative red flag issues.

I have to deal with that and women seeing me as worthless and not good enough o even be in the same room as them non less tsk to them or the horror of being romantically interested in them.

Why would a woman being attractive have anything to do with her being abused? I don’t think men abuse ugly women either. It’s more just bunch of men are abusive and women who are more submissive or have low self esteem proof better targets.

Likewise submissive men and low self esteem men are better targets for abusive women.

No they don’t. You can tell if a person is strange even when talking online.

You are quite different to many other guys here. You, face of boo, retrogamer seem normal, so that probably doesn’t apply. Though I can easily sense your self esteem problem. I think continue to work on building yourself up.

I’ve got a very large friend with a lower paying part time job and he’s married with kids. He isn’t an aspie and is not submissive, doesn’t appear to have self esteem issues.

Plenty of nts are strange too though. Or eccentric of they’re successful like Steve jobs and bill gates.

Yeah I appear Norma so people are confused why I just don’t get a better job or why I don’t have a gf. Quite a few of the men at work seem to assume I have a family or at least a gf. Only one knows I don’t cause he asked me if I had one then told me I need to get on it as I’m running out of time thanks cause I wasn’t already aware of that
Otherwise there’s a few women who know cause I talk to one routinely and the others o asked if they had single friends who are nice and one I asked to ask the girl at work I had a crush on if she liked me.

I know I have low self esteem with women. I have zero confidence as I’ve had zero good experiences with womento build self esteem and confidence off of. Only having a relationship would fix that. Catch 22. And it’s onlu gotten and getting worse last year and as time goes by. I’ll probably one day hate women seems hopeless and thus unavoidable.

People don’t understand. I tried talking to my older friend from the gaming clan but he’s just like you just need to go get a better job like car salesmen(his job) he doesn’t understand what aspergers is and how it effects my abilities I haven’t talked to him since even when he offers to cause I know he won’t understand and just see me as lazy

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