Why do Women do this on Dating Sites?

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I don't understand why a rape case should be more difficult to prove than a theft case, though. Why should "She wanted it" be a better defense than "He gave it to me,"?

Is 'he gave it to me' a common defense from theft charges?

I could see it being easier to prove theft purely because of the nature of the crime, the stolen item being in the possession of the accused being fairly persuasive and all, where as sex and why and with whom we have it being far more nebulous.

So I decided to throw a Hail Mary and try OK Cupid for the third time. It was a monumental waste of time before but then again my eHarmony experience was literally ten times better the second time around. No relationships but a did get both friends and a greatly expanded social circle (and a chance to meet a woman in that circle who might eventually be GF/wife material!). I saw this lovely girl who was a 96% match and had a profile free of clichés. Not drop dead gorgeous but seemed like a down to earth, emotionally available gal I have been searching for. She even had a green under her response level! I was going to message her until I realized she re-wrote her profile. Here is what she says now(direct quotes):

"Just a heads up, since I've been getting messages of these kinds far too often for my tastes, I'm looking for a relationship. I'm not here because you're horny and you feel I'm the most likely to cyber with you at the time. I'm not looking for one night stands, or casual 'encounters'."

"I'm the kind of person that is perfectly fine by myself"

"If you do something that annoys me, or upsets me you are going to know it. I don't mean by giving you the silent treatment until you 'figure it out'. I will tell you right then and there what you are doing is upsetting and you had best not do it again."

"I don't share. Period. The second I find out you are or were cheating on me, your ass is grass. First offense I am gone, I don't need that s**t in my life."

"you like anything you see/read here! Though one rule:
Instead of sending me a dick pic (because this happens more often then I thought it really would) you can send me:" and a long list of "acceptable" pictures.

Why would someone write a profile like that? Is that really going to motivate a high quality male such as myself to message her? What is she thinking? Can you say "bitter?" All I can think of is why would any decent, self-respecting guy respond to that nasty profile? She literally has nothing to offer in her new profile except to show what a nasty attitude she has! Maybe I should re-write my profile to say "I am sick of emotionally unavailable women who can't seem to figure out what they want! Get lost until you are serious about a relationship!" I'm blunt as they come like most Aspies but I do know how to phrase my desires in a respectful and polite way. If she is that bitter about the poor responses, why the heck doesn't she take the time and energy to make that terrible profile to get up off her butt and message guys she thinks match her criteria? Makes no sense to me!

So I decided to throw a Hail Mary and try OK Cupid for the third time. It was a monumental waste of time before but then again my eHarmony experience was literally ten times better the second time around. No relationships but a did get both friends and a greatly expanded social circle (and a chance to meet a woman in that circle who might eventually be GF/wife material!). I saw this lovely girl who was a 96% match and had a profile free of clichés. Not drop dead gorgeous but seemed like a down to earth, emotionally available gal I have been searching for. She even had a green under her response level! I was going to message her until I realized she re-wrote her profile. Here is what she says now(direct quotes):

"Just a heads up, since I've been getting messages of these kinds far too often for my tastes, I'm looking for a relationship. I'm not here because you're horny and you feel I'm the most likely to cyber with you at the time. I'm not looking for one night stands, or casual 'encounters'."

"I'm the kind of person that is perfectly fine by myself"

"If you do something that annoys me, or upsets me you are going to know it. I don't mean by giving you the silent treatment until you 'figure it out'. I will tell you right then and there what you are doing is upsetting and you had best not do it again."

"I don't share. Period. The second I find out you are or were cheating on me, your ass is grass. First offense I am gone, I don't need that s**t in my life."

"you like anything you see/read here! Though one rule:
Instead of sending me a dick pic (because this happens more often then I thought it really would) you can send me:" and a long list of "acceptable" pictures.

Why would someone write a profile like that? Is that really going to motivate a high quality male such as myself to message her? What is she thinking? Can you say "bitter?" All I can think of is why would any decent, self-respecting guy respond to that nasty profile? She literally has nothing to offer in her new profile except to show what a nasty attitude she has! Maybe I should re-write my profile to say "I am sick of emotionally unavailable women who can't seem to figure out what they want! Get lost until you are serious about a relationship!" I'm blunt as they come like most Aspies but I do know how to phrase my desires in a respectful and polite way. If she is that bitter about the poor responses, why the heck doesn't she take the time and energy to make that terrible profile to get up off her butt and message guys she thinks match her criteria? Makes no sense to me!

I always see profiles saying no dick pics etc. I respond saying hey I'm a good guy who doesn't take pictures of his dick and also I have interests in common with you blah blah blah, and guess what? Never get a reply. I think they do it to get attention mostly.

It's happened enough times that I'm tempted to take some pics of my dick and start sending them out just to be contrary. It's not like they could treat me any worse than they already do... and I don't even deserve it, so I might as well start doing bad things if they're going to treat me like a bad person whatever the f**k I do.

I think its bad treatment to get blocked all the time for sending polite, friendly, bespoke, thoughtful, and sincere messages. I'd probably get a better response if I did just email my dick to 100 women.

Just my two cents.

I always see profiles saying no dick pics etc. I respond saying hey I'm a good guy who doesn't take pictures of his dick and also I have interests in common with you blah blah blah, and guess what? Never get a reply.

I am actually legitimately confused as to why this is perceived as nasty, only that maybe there is just some kind of assumption that the intention is nasty.

But also: what makes you think that this woman can not be equal parts of both versions of the profile? Had she done any of the quiz questions? ...would you take the two minutes to message her and ask why she changed her profile and comment that you really thought you two had in common when you read the previous one?

Why hadn't you if you hadn't?
How do you know she isn't messaging guys?

[and I would certainly message people I found interesting first]

How is being upfront about not liking certain behaviour "punishing people who don't engage in that behaviour"?

There is a difference between saying "no tattoos or body piercings please" (like I once did) to "if I discover you have ink or metal on your body, your ass is out the door." If nobody can see the difference in those two statements, I officially give up.

I'd suggest finding out whether the person has tattoos or body piercings before getting to the living-together stage. That way, no kicking out of anyone's a$s will be needed.