Males/ Boys Question:What qualities do you like in a girl?

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I would like a girl who is very smart, even if she is a Nuerotypical who has a gifted or genius IQ, cares for me, and is adventurous. I know that NT Americans like girls because of big (don't want to say it here) and their looks that NT American women spend so much time on and songs like "I'm all about that B-" That is the reason why I think Americans have a lot of divorce they see from the outside not on the inside and thats why getting screwed over and bad communication make a lot of impact.Yeah, it would be cool if a girl has hot looks but as long as she takes care of herself and has a good personality with the traits I want, I would go for her.
What qualities do you guys specifically look for when going for a girl?

Quiet, smiley, nice, pretty face, down to earth

Mod Edit: Moving to Love and Dating since topic better corresponds with that forum

Living, breathing (on her own), free from chronic illness, sane, intelligent, well-educated, good credit, talented, hygienic, reasonably fashionable, reasonably cheerful, reasonably reasonable, patient, compassionate, faithful, temperate, and reasonably good-looking (or better).

No tattoos, no amputations, no surgical 'enhancements', no addictions, no repressed anger or PTSD, no hang-ups about sex, no police or prison record, not prone to playing "mind games", and not having been born male.

In other words, the current Mrs. Fnord.

Video gamer, programmer, stunted emotions, likely someone who likes anime and cosplay, not obese, doesn't put effort in being fashionable, can keep up in rational debates

PS: My standards aren't very high. I would rather have an Aspie gf with a stunted emotion comorbid and a sort of geekishness than a NT gf who is fashionable, emotional (annoying) and an idealism.

I have very low if any standards.

But I base the qualities I want in the women based on who I have been attracted to previously. I find the similarities they all have and determine that THESE are the traits I must like (because clearly it is what I am most commonly drawn to).

Basically, MOST of the females I have liked in the past have been an intelligent girl who fits many of the stereotypical 'nerd'/'geek' traits along with her own sense of individuality beyond this.

I like women who love to talk, because I love to listen. Ones that go on, and on and on and ON about whatever their interests are, and I enjoy listening intently.

I also find slightly controlling women VERY attractive. Not abusive or a control freak, but simply 'bossy'. A girl who bosses me around a little and sort of treats me like a punching bag (as in, a bit "cruel/mean" but in an affectionate way) but still cares about me and is maybe even a little over-protective at times. Sarcastic, over-protective, condescending and bossy. I find all this attractive. Also possessive. The type of girl that can say, to people who are bullying me: "You can't treat him like that, only I can treat him like that!"

Most have been gender non-conformists and not 'traditionally' feminine females. A few have been bisexual, many have been 'tomboys' but with an endearing sense of femininity. Basically not masculine or feminine but a nice balance/mix between the two.

Most of them have been the same height or slightly shorter, most white skinned (European in origin especially), most average weight or slightly 'curvy', dark brown eyes, naturally dark brown hair (but a lot of them have had their hair dyed an unnatural color).

Aniihya: Agreed. You have good taste in women.

The last girl I liked was a bit of a mixed bag. Aspie girl, cute in a geeky sort of way. Gamer and big-time nerd. We were friends for a couple of months, at the end of which I revealed that I was interested in her as more than a friend. Her immediate response was to lie to me a few times (or, to be fair, tell me multiple things that couldn't be true once), not see me for a month or so, then invite me for a rather uncomfortable movie night. Then she started sending me melodramatic texts that boiled down to "I feel that you feel like this, and this is how I feel about that.". My actual input was apparently irrelevant. So...yeah. I should add the she had both ADHD and Aspergers (and, I suspect, some additional form of anxiety);she wasn't good around people, but she really couldn't handle being alone.

I could go for more of her, minus the melodrama.


But yeah, smart, nerdy and bookish are big pluses. Well-read, well-spoken and witty, with a sense of humour (preferrably slightly morbid). Kind, but not weak. A sense of style is a plus, but being shallow and/or superficial are both big minuses. I take care of my body, and I'd like for her to do the same, although I like cooking, so a healthy appetite is also a plus. Not vegetarian (I have enough of those around, I need someone who will eat my cooking.), non-smoker, enjoys good wine and chocolate.

An ideal woman for me would be:

Petite or slightly full figured.
Short (5'3-5'6).
Natural hair and face - I despise make-up.
I like a woman who can dress up, but can also be casual.
Has a profound insight on life and death.
Is intellectual.
Has an intrigue on science, math, philosophy, music or art.
We've the same music taste on somewhat similar beliefs.
Isn't materialistic or shallow or treacherous.
Is a Lord of the Rings/Star Wars fan.
Can hang at a show or at a bar.
Is down to drink beer and not just alcohol.
Doesn't smoke cigarettes, but marijuana could be an exception.
Is into hiking or running or exercising at that.

A nerdy girl close to my age is what I want. Someone who could be a friend and lover. Looks are changeable, while personality changes take major events occurring to shift. I like curves.

-Not a whore/slut
-doesn't mind having gunz around (you'd be surprised how many women have an irrational fear of the things and refuse to allow them in the same dwelling)
-independent and can amuse herself
-loyal (not blindly loyal, of course)

Looks and stuff don't mean much to me.

- Loves me for who I am and doesn't try to change who I am
- Must be my type; somewhat good-looking at least
- Must not smoke; I have asthma, plus smoking is one of the worst turn-offs for me
- Loyal; doesn't cheat on me

That's about it. All I want is someone for me to love and look after, and to love and look after me

First I'll list the qualities I do not like.

- Hypersocial / party or bar-hopper. 100% incompatible with me.
- Lack of hygiene.
- Sports or physical activity fanatic. You know, those that hit the gym every day and every weekend climb Mt. Everest.
- Materialistic / big spender / hoarder. I do not want to be with someone who collects shoes, trinkets and such and burns a good chunk of income on said things. I'm a minimalist and cannot stand people like this. This includes hyperfashionable individuals that need dresses and outfits for every possible occasion.
- Need to talk nonstop / small talk. Primarily because I cannot hold a small talk conversation.
- When it comes to physical attributes I would prefer her to not be taller than me nor she be obese.
- Not religious fanatic.

What I do like:
- Dark sense of humor.
- Loves sushi and sashimi
- Open minded

Aside from that, I'm all for discovering her personality. The above three is just the three qualities I do like in a girl.

I mostly wanted someone who would give me a real chance & try to make the relationship work. Less important qualities are loyal, affectionate, needy/clingy & a little dependent, direct with me, not superficial or fake, not older than me acting like a mom with me, respects my input, & not wanting children or at least being OK with not having them. My girlfriend meets all this criteria.