Would you date a girl who doesn't wear dresses?

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I'm in the camp that someone should wear whatever they want and what they are comfortable with. Their body, their decision.

Dating a girl who doesn't wear dresses...I'd be fine with that. Of course, I'd still like her to look presentable. You know, nice.It doesn't necessarily have to be a dress she's wearing. Of course, love is more than looks.

I didn't even know that not wearing dresses would be a deal breaker for men. I think that men don't care as much about fashion as women do.

What makes you think I'd try to buy a dress for a woman that I barely know? I'd wait to get to know her(in the biblical sense) and then I'd try to find a dress that fits her(might even take measurements) but I'm not going to do that on the 1st or 2nd dates for cryin' out loud! She ain't barbie cuz most likely she's a REAL woman and not a blonde beanpole(I don't date slender women FYI).

Lazar, when I said that you wouldn't likely get another date after buying a dress and shoes for a woman, I meant that most women would seriously consider dumping you at that point. When I said your date wouldn't be Barbie, I meant that a woman is not a toy to be dressed up by "her man."

Even if I accept that your intentions are good, I stand by my original comment: I don't know any women (and I know MANY) who would be pleased with a man who'd buy her a dress, ESPECIALLY if she doesn't already wear them! Don't even get me started on the high heels. If you want to start/maintain a genuine relationship with a woman whose garb you'd rework for her (unless she specifically asks you), reconsider your compatibility.

Well I did buy a dress and shoes for a woman and she appreciated it(my ex). The reason we broke up is because she was knocked up with her previous bf's baby and I really could not accept her baby since I'm not its biological father but that's a birdwalk. In fact, she really reworked MY garb for me and got me to dress better which I'm actually rather grateful for(at least I got something out of that whole sordid affair!).

But yeah, a woman who would dump me just because I bought her a nice dress when she normally doesn't wear them is NOT the kind of woman I want to be in a relationship with. Stubbornness about stuff like that is a huge turn-off to me. It's not a problem for me that she doesn't wear dress and heels, but it would be if she refused to wear them *ever*, at all.

So if your girlfriend bought a dress and heels for you, you wouldn't refuse to wear them?

I'm very sorry that your ex cheated on you; I can only imagine how painful it must have been. I hope that your days are much brighter now.

I feel that maybe you're still missing the point I'm trying to make about buying a dress and shoes for a woman. The most likely reasons a woman wouldn't want someone to just up and buy her a dress and shoes have nothing to do with a woman being stubborn, but with a woman feeling insulted and perhaps manipulated. The clothes would likely send a message that you think she's not capable of dressing herself, that you think you can do it better, that you don't "approve" of what she's already wearing, that she doesn't have a mind of her own and a right or the ability to make her own choices. Most women would question their future with someone who'd do that to them when they're starting out, and some might feel hurt even after they'd become an actual couple.

I'm glad that your ex appreciated the purchase you made for her and that you benefitted from her fashion advice; when you have a close relationship like that and know each other well enough, it can be fine. However, it usually works best as a cooperative experience that two people are willing and able to enjoy together--especially if one is trying to pick out shoes because finding a decent fit--much less a comfortable one--in women's shoes is almost impossible to do for someone if she's not there to try them on!

To nit-pick: the original question was about a woman attracting a potential mate without wearing dresses. I would hate to see anyone on this forum botch a potential relationship by presenting a date with clothes that s/he probably doesn't want. It might be obvious to some not to do that, but then again, maybe not to all. I'm elaborating here so that readers who either need or want some info on such an unusual "gift" could get some insight.

Last edited by KimD on 22 Mar 2015, 7:58 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I’m starting to think the true purpose of heels is to use them to get back at those who clumsily step on the woman’s toes while dancing with her, like I inevitably would

Erm, I'm straight, male, and not a cross-dresser homes. Men look stupid in dresses and skirts since they don't have the hips for em anyway.

But what if SHE thinks they look good on you and you should wear them, at least once, just like you think she should?

Dear, I don't wear dresses, or heels, or perfume. I wear only concealer and a little blusher sometimes. I don't style my hair (only wash then brush). I only use water and shampoo in the shower (no other smellies). I don't dress seductively either. It hasn't affected my eligibility to men in any way. In fact, I have had more problems with unwanted advances then lacking advances. Just be yourself, and make true friends with anyone you are interested in. If your friendship grows into more, what you wear won't matter x

Yep...basic hygiene is the most important thing....especially in lands where there is running water on a consistent basis. Come to think of it...even in places which DON'T have running water.

You actually have a valid point. When you won't take someone as they are, imperfections and all(and perhaps that means things they do you that you don't like which they can change but don't wanna), the message that you are sending to them is that they're not that special to you. It's as if you either don't actually want them specifically, you just take them because they're available and are essentially using them for sexual gratification, attention seeking, and/or have *A* partner even if it's not the right one.

But not all women are as inflexible about how they dress as you seem to imply. Some definitely are and what I can say for myself is that I'm really just not compatible with rigid women. The 2 major relationships I've had in my life so far have been with women were exceedingly stubborn and refused to accommodate me despite my willingness to accommodate them and in the end it didn't work out. I don't expect a woman to wear dresses, skirts, heels, and makeup, but I really do want someone who is willing to wear that stuff on an occasional basis at the very least. Hope that helps.

I would love to date a girl who does very less make up, and wears normal clothes.

Are you slender?

I did explain to her what may be the real reason on page 1 and 2 - and it's certainly not the dresses.

But she ignored my posts.

Alas. Let her try to wear dresses.