What is the secret to understanding women?

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This is something nearly all men have been wanting to know for millennia. Yes, even NT men. What is it about the opposite sex that makes it so perplexing to us? You'd think we'd have it figured out by now. Are we just too simplistic to comprehend the complex nature of the fairer sex?

Hmmm... I don't think I'm that complex.

I don't think we are suppose to be able to figure it out.

Sort of like those perplexing math problems that actually don't have known solutions. I remember and EE101 test question like that.

Honestly, and I say that without remorse, I ended up finding them very predictable.

I personally see women differ only per community (and still the majority of women in the world have a lot in common) when it comes to what they like in men, within the same community they copycat a lot of each other, in a hive-like minds; understand one and you understand them all. You are either seen desirable by the vast majority of a community or you're not.

Determine of which community she is, and you can start to predict what she's like and she likes.


Check this:
http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic.php?t=285005

and check Janissy's post:
http://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewtopic ... &start=105

I personally see outlier women are much rarer than outlier men - and not all of them in a good way. Also I see men are more diversified in what they like in women, even when it comes to looks. However, an average man usually doesn't have the luxury to be too picky, so he usually goes with the flow and takes the chance with any woman who happens to like him.

I genuinely think that it's a lack of communication between the sexes. We're told as we grow up that we are just sooo different and you hear grown ups saying things like, "Oh typical men doing x,y,z" and "Ugh women are crazy". I think that we are told it so often that we start to believe it and regard the opposite sex as this mysterious other species.

I genuinely think that we all just need to spend more time together. We should not be scared to talk to each other.

It seems that too often when I'm out I see groups of guys hanging together and talking and groups of women hanging together talking, but they aren't interacting between sexes. We need to stop treating each other like aliens.

Women seem to be encouraged by older women to play games and that's not right. It's our culture that's messed up, it's not neccessarily that we are so totally different that we are not able to understand one another.

As a women I would say that all I'm looking for is a man that I can feel comfortable talking to and someone who takes an interest in me. Like the guy I've just given up on is one of the nicest people you will ever meet, but he's just not interested in spending time with me. I've tried to include him in my life, I've initiated conversations, I've started Facebook conversations with him, but he's just never bothered to try and bridge the gap himself, so I'd say if you're interested in someone, just make the effort to spend some time with her and listen to her.

It's best to strive to understand the individual woman, rather than the collective known as "women."

Just like it's absurd to base one's decision not to date upon studies which states that "among so-and-so a group, only 25% have relationships."

I spent my whole adult life being a woman, and I still don't understand us.

The "othering" of women that is enjoyed by some men is not productive. Personally I don't understand men or women until I get to know them. And sometimes my presumptions have been way off.
Men, try to remember that women are also people.

Understanding women, or understanding a particular woman ? Every single individual woman on this planet is not the same, yet some may have similar qualities or characteristics that are similar to one another. In time, you might be able to better understand a woman/women, but you may never be able to fully understand them. I believe that this particular form of understanding will remain one of the "great" mysteries of our existence.

I had a very hard time understanding NT women because they don't say what they mean or mean what they say. But I didn't have that problem with Aspie women because they were more direct & straightforward with me. My problem is I'm too direct & straightforward for typical women.

In my experience, the best way to understand women (in general) is to understand they are human but are not men. Most of the time, they are just like us guys but there are situations where they want us to show our masculinity. It's a balancing act between being dominant and abusive.

I agree though that every woman is different. What I always found was that women became attracted when I made a bold move like kissing them or showed leadership qualities. Women might be independent but they generally like a guy who is powerful but can take care of them and keep them emotionally and physically safe. Again it cannot be overemphasized that a)woman are just people and b)they should be seen as individuals, not as a collective.