Describe Your Ideal Partner

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Would anybody like somebody “giving you the finger”?

My dream lady would walk up to the top of a mountain with me and spend time just looking down at the view and enjoy sharing each others company. I may even share my sandwiches with her!

1. He has to be at my exact functioning level (able to make eye contact, talk, no social awkwardness and knows how to behave appropriately in every social situation.
2. Dresses like he has some common sense (nice jeans, a band tee with a band I like on it, none of that trash that would be stigmatizing and embarrass me such as Nickleback, Papa Roach and Justin Bieber)
3. Patient and just as talkative as me
4. Likes video games
5. Is okay with my girly instinct and tendencies
6. Doesn't eat gross food. I don't eat fast food and neither should he
7. Longer hair because guys I've dated with short hair are very...well...lame

Someone who accepts me as I am.
Someone who is willing to work through problems together.
Someone who is self aware and can articulate what they need.
Someone who is affectionate.
Someone who believes I am beautiful.
Someone who loves me.

^^^that makes me cry

A man who is nice, loves animals (particularly cats) and won't reject me because I am different.

She would have to be 25-31.

Interested in Genealogy, Video Games, Movies, Listening to music, Museums, Nature.

Myself cloned.

OR someone complementary, I guess. ffffffffff

But I could really help myself out.

I have my ideal partner.

However, I think topics like this can be somewhat counter productive if taken at face value. Only experiencing a stable relationship can give you a sense of who is a good fit. Many people have plenty of experience but they haven't had a sense of balance in their relationships. In searching for ideal traits they open themselves up to be exploited.

Personality is dynamic. People have a range of states and behaviours. So any ideal is exactly that. You will get to know eachother over time warts and all. If you are accepting of the the majority you are doing well

Social status expection imbalance and lack of genuine affinity leads to unhappy relationships.

We have a strong understanding of eachother that very intuitive. We are very accommodating of eachother. That is the key. It is a sure sign of a strong relationship. If it comes naturally that you are accepting of one another, and this is no effort then you are onto a winner.

We both have a low tolerance for drama especially people who create drama. We both are socially awkward, in our own way. She is a very empathetic loving person even though people can be tiresome sometimes. We express out affection for eachother differently but the effect is similar.

I also think love (such as is) is is a creative act between partners. It is something you create together. Chemistry is massively important, but it is an active process. It is quite possible that there is truth to the old adage of not rushing in. I'm not talking about sex, but more giving time for relationship to flourish in an unforced way. The other reason why idealism can be counter productive is a preconception of a relationship placing unrealistic expectations and leading to pre-empting failure.

My ideal partner would have both "hot" looking to me physically but also has a generally better personality.
Why are both in the same package so rare?