I’m never going to find love

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20 Aug 2020, 10:13 pm

I lost hope on finding love. I wanted to talk to a guy before my birthday, my birthday is next week & no man.



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21 Aug 2020, 4:53 am

There's a time when one should accept defeat, and give up.



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21 Aug 2020, 8:56 pm

It seems like when you quit looking is when you find someone. My advice in general when it comes to NT guys don't rush things take it slow and see were things go getting to serious to fast will scare a lot of us off and most of us don't like to be controlled so always keep that in mind nothing ran me off faster then a controller they got put in the friend zone really fast.

This is just general advice and is not meant to imply anything about you


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22 Aug 2020, 2:02 am

Brehus wrote:
It seems like when you quit looking is when you find someone. My advice in general when it comes to NT guys don't rush things take it slow and see were things go getting to serious to fast will scare a lot of us off and most of us don't like to be controlled so always keep that in mind nothing ran me off faster then a controller they got put in the friend zone really fast.

This is just general advice and is not meant to imply anything about you


Thanks, I hear it too that when you stop looking, love will find you. I guess I was trying too hard, I wanted to talk to someone cuz talking to a guy will help me stay happy, it been So Incredible Hard for me since the virus begin, I not only have Aspergers, I have Cerebral Pasly, Psoriasis, Bone pain & more stuff. Before I got my first boyfriend, I wasn’t looking for one, he found me, we were working at a disabled workshop.



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22 Aug 2020, 4:03 pm

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22 Aug 2020, 4:42 pm

I feel the same way.
Happy early birthday though. :heart:


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22 Aug 2020, 6:21 pm

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Why are you crying?



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24 Aug 2020, 10:53 am

I find that the advice that love will find you when stop looking only works for NTs. When NTs aren't looking, they're just going about there normal social lives where they constantly meet and interact with new people. For us, not looking generally means being introverted and keeping to ourselves and our comfort zones, which doesn't help us at all.



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24 Aug 2020, 10:59 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
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Why are you crying?
He also "can't find love".

Why don't all of the people who can't find love simply form their own Lonely Hearts Club, pair off, and be happy?

Or am I being too naïve?


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24 Aug 2020, 5:59 pm

Fnord wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
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Why are you crying?
He also "can't find love".

Why don't all of the people who can't find love simply form their own Lonely Hearts Club, pair off, and be happy?

Or am I being too naïve?



You look good.



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24 Aug 2020, 6:03 pm

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I forgot. Sly, it took me over 20 years to find love, I know that was toooo long, I was like you. Please don’t give up, I hope you do find someone.



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25 Feb 2021, 3:31 am

how long have you been single now?