Date outside your race/ethnicity?

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I'm of mixed descent myself, so I can't help but date outside of my race(s).

I'd love to date someone of another race. Has anyone ever noticed the children from mixed marriages are always the most beautiful?

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I think that the perception of black women is not helped by the WB, nor music videos or the media in general. One of my best friends in junior high was black, she still is hahaha, and although there were definite cultural differences, we were great friends and we embraced those differences. I couldn't dance, she could. We could both sing, but she was better. She didn't let anyone push her around and I was her staunchest defender when security guards would accuse her of shoplifting, because she was probably the only black person in the mall. We each drew from eachothers strengths, whether stereotypical or not.

I have dated the following races/ethnicities:

African-American
Jewish/Hebrew
and the old typical wh***y.

I married a German-Scot-Jew-Swede and he is as pale as the moon. Being an Aspie, I am much more stimulated by intellect and a sense of humor. However, I am not attracted to Asian males, even though half of my family is Japanese and I must say that my cousins are quite handsome and never at a loss for female company.

Incidentally, the Japanese women in my family all married Anglo-Saxon males.

My best friend, who also happens to be my cousin, is half Filipino half Japanese and she has never been attracted to Asian males. They would try to date her during school, but she was never interested. She married an Irish guy.

Tallgirl.

TallGirl: why don't you like Asian guys? Do you not have Asian Pride or something? I have strong-a$$ Asian Pride and I would only date Asian guys, although I find some African-American guys attractive because I live in a Black/Asian neighborhood and we grew up with black culture. I'm asking out of curiosity, I'm not racist at all, but I just don't know why so many Asian American women date white guys, I mean, our cultures are so different. May I ask how DO you do it?

Saying that it's racist to not be attracted to a certain race is the same as saying that it's sexist to not be attracted to a certain sex.

true - i think.

for me, it's more about the individual. i would never say "i won't go out with(for example) black blokes", because it would depend on the bloke himself, and not his race or ethnicity. it's on a par with the fact that i seem to prefer dark to blond, and a deep voice to a lighter voice (although neither of those is carved in stone, either).

initial physical attraction IS important (whether people think it's superficial or not), but it's the whole person, in the final analysis.

absolutely i totally agree

I cant understand the 27 answers that say "of course". I would date someone of any race if she looked good to me and i liked her but how can i say of course if people dont know me and who i fancy or not? I think yes is a better answer.

Race is not sex.
Well, the racial features that people prefer are determined by western colonialist brainwashing. Why do you think so many men of color are attracted to white and lighter-skinned/less ethnic looking minority women, and there are no really super dark skinned models on TV? Why do you think so many minority women try to date white guys? It's because of institutional racism, folks.

I don't know if people of colour being attracted to white people is a result of brainwashing, TaliDaRadical. Nothing and no one can control who a person is attracted to.

I would agree with TaliDaRadical on this. You can have cultural brainwashing based on what a society dictates as norm. If your raised to believe something is beautiful, you will believe it is.

No

Maybe

I don't know

I agree. We dont choose who we fancy or not. Otherwise id choose to fancy my hand instead of women and save myself a lot of grief.

race has never been an issue for me, in fact if anyone has got a telephone number for a cute, single extra-terrestrial please let me know!

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I really care not about race, but more about personality and character. The last girl I liked was as smart as they came, an overall high achiever, but I eventually learned the hard way she was a neurotic emotionally unstable, drunken party whore on her off-time, who considered herself better than everyone else, and was extremely intolerant. She was physically quite attractive, a 50-50 mix of white/India, but her character proved as ugly as they came.