Sean wrote:
nirrti_rachelle wrote:
Oh, by the way, I've found that many white (and black) men don't like black women because they can't control them like those from other cultures. We're then accused of having an "attitude" because we're self confident, don't apologize for who we are and don't take crap from them like some other women will.
I don't know what your personality is like, but what I most often observe from black women is tempermental and agressive behavior rather than mental or emotinal strengh.
Sean, If you read some of my previous posts under nirrti_rachelle or nirrti, you'll probably get a picture of who I am, not necessarily as a "black" woman since that's only a fraction of what makes me "me" but as just another woman with Asperger's who has the same difficulties, people issues, desires, feelings and imperfections as anyone else on this forum.
Apparently, you haven't been exposed to many black women other than in passing circumstances if that's all you've encountered. On the contrary, I've found many black women to be some of the most intelligent, intuitive, spiritual and strongest people, mentally and emotionally I've ever met. And from what I've observed between black women and those of other races, we want the same things in life everyone else is looking for....love, family, a chance to make a difference in the world and to live our lives with integrity.
On the other hand, whenever the situation, either in business, politics or our personal life calls for us to be what some people couch as agressive ("assertive" is probably a more accurate description), we're unapologetic about doing so, as we've learned throughout history that it's our responsibility to resolve issues whenever they arise and voice our desires and no one else should have to fight our battles for us.
Interestly, males would find it preposterous if they were maligned for doing the same thing which leads me to the conclusion that maybe it's still taboo for women not to be the "nice-girl" who's reluctant to risk being disliked for making waves, thereby remaining silent instead of becoming her own advocate.
I'm aware there are many, many negative stereotypes being perpetrated about most black women being loud, stupid, obnoxious and rude, which may be true for some black women but can also be said about segments in any other group, white, hispanic or Asian. And from what I'm reading in this forum, unfortunately, people still believe these to be the truth.
How utterly sad.
I wish I could singlehandedly change society's perception of black women (and men) but I know they first must be willing to make the initiative to challenge the misconceptions they've harbored by getting to know us as people, not just another racial charicature.
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