Date outside your race/ethnicity?

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Sean, If you read some of my previous posts under nirrti_rachelle or nirrti, you'll probably get a picture of who I am, not necessarily as a "black" woman since that's only a fraction of what makes me "me" but as just another woman with Asperger's who has the same difficulties, people issues, desires, feelings and imperfections as anyone else on this forum.

Apparently, you haven't been exposed to many black women other than in passing circumstances if that's all you've encountered. On the contrary, I've found many black women to be some of the most intelligent, intuitive, spiritual and strongest people, mentally and emotionally I've ever met. And from what I've observed between black women and those of other races, we want the same things in life everyone else is looking for....love, family, a chance to make a difference in the world and to live our lives with integrity.

On the other hand, whenever the situation, either in business, politics or our personal life calls for us to be what some people couch as agressive ("assertive" is probably a more accurate description), we're unapologetic about doing so, as we've learned throughout history that it's our responsibility to resolve issues whenever they arise and voice our desires and no one else should have to fight our battles for us.
Interestly, males would find it preposterous if they were maligned for doing the same thing which leads me to the conclusion that maybe it's still taboo for women not to be the "nice-girl" who's reluctant to risk being disliked for making waves, thereby remaining silent instead of becoming her own advocate.

I'm aware there are many, many negative stereotypes being perpetrated about most black women being loud, stupid, obnoxious and rude, which may be true for some black women but can also be said about segments in any other group, white, hispanic or Asian. And from what I'm reading in this forum, unfortunately, people still believe these to be the truth.
How utterly sad.

I wish I could singlehandedly change society's perception of black women (and men) but I know they first must be willing to make the initiative to challenge the misconceptions they've harbored by getting to know us as people, not just another racial charicature.

couldn't agree more, nirrti-rachelle.

I have lived in the same town for 18 years. For about 13 of those years, there have been more blacks than whites. I have known lots of blacks. I must say that there are some really cool black women, but unfortunately, they are the exception rather than the rule at least where I live.

I have to ageree with sean, I have lived in the UK throughout my life and the only black people I have known are those chavettes who shout at you to move if your in their way or are basically TOO LOUD! There is also a school that is near me, it's an all girls school and 95% are black, when you get on the bus with them they go upstairs yet you can still hear what their saying downstairs. It's not pleasent what their saying eiher, they're talking about 'banging out' others and crude sexual term which they childishly giggle about at their age. It is annoying because the other school which is mixed and contains mostly white students is well behaved and is quieter.

Now I know for a fact their are nice black women but as I say because I'm an alternitive gal they treat me badly because I'm different and don't listen to 'hip hop'.

Saying this it's the same with the white chavettes, they also treat me like dirt because of the way I dress and the way I am.

In fact most chavs/trendies are nasty to me both verbally and even physically occasionally.

(A chav or trendie is like a prep or jock I think.)

I don't mean to be a racist, but here are some of the types of races/ethnicities I would date outside of my own (in no particular order:

Hispanic
Eastern EUropean (Polish, Russian, et al.)
Arab
African-American

I put 'probably not' more to indicate that I would 'probably not' date anyone and the choice was made without reference to the ethnic origins of any hypothetical partner.

I like butterscotch, vanilla, chocolate...mmmmmmmmm.....they are all so good in their own special way!

If i see a hot piece of ass i want to tap into it no matter what colour it is. (excluding any unnatural skin colour like purple)

I don't know, I could probably see myself getting with a blue-colored chick.

And you admit it here. I have heard of porn getting called blue movies so i guess you arent alone there.

Hey, if you've ever played a Star Wars game, some of those green skinned Twi'leks are hot.

mmm, smurphy



Hey, goes nice with the forum colors.

Well when you put it like that. You've just convinced me.

I'd have no problem going out with someone outside my own race. I really dig black & asian chicks.

For me, just finding a girl who I can really feel emotionally on-the-level with is rare enough. If I felt that connected to someone it really wouldn't mean anything if she was pale white, double-dipped west african, chinese, indian, south american, because she'd still be more like me than 99% of the people I know. My experience has showed me that at least in conversation, even though I've never found someone like that single, it's like their personality jumps far enough out in front of them that I see their personality first and all the other stuff second. As for being off-the-wall cultural, I really couldn't see a girl who's real stereotypical of any race really fitting me so that's something I probably wouldn't have to deal with.

I'm fine with dating any one I fall in love with - male, female, asian, split ethnics... It sounds reverse cliche (is that a term? oh well.) but I don't judge by looks. The only male (excluding Michael) I've fallen in love with since I was about five happens to be split ethnics. But as a general rule I tend to go for blonde, pale guys/girls, so usually I'd be with those within my own race.