do you find autistic girls attractive?

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I sure do!! I think my gf might have AS. She doesn't look at me most of the time when she talks, she goes on and on about her interests, and she wrings her hands a lot. She's really cute, and not just when she does that either. ^^

I probably would, but I don't know. I've never met that many girls with autism (or at least not knowingly), but the ones who I have met have been a little too childish (they still played with dolls in 6th grade). I hope to find an autistic girl that acts her age, but still is shy and innocent (because that is really attractive).

I never can tell when people are being sarcastic… If you were forced to socialise with a group of ten people I’d naturally gravitate towards the quieter ones, largely because we’d be more likely to have a similar personality and hence compatibility. This is precisely how I’d feel about an awkward woman. That these traits could be intrinsically attractive (or indeed unattractive) is not something I really follow.

no that's me

Some I do, some I don't.

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I'm sure I'd find some quite endearing, others would drive me up the wall, others...

My ex was the latter.

tim you need to let go, every other post you talk about some ex.

It was just to make conversation.

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Sure but there is fairly limited amount of conversation you can have about the same subject over an over.

Honestly people pretend to care about this stuff some of the time, but everyone has a limit on how much they can take. I would wager that for most people it is a very small capacity.

Anyway, short answer: you can't compare everything to past relationships logically.

I find people who seem to understand my perspective and life more attractive then those that pretend to be normal. I find that I have had the strongest relationships with those who have other forms of disabilities.

They are very special, they're like angels.

No more or less than anyone else... I can't say as I'm not gay or bi.

In terms of attractive.. all I can judge is on aspie males i've met in real life.. and the answer to that is no. :/

I was just thinking about this whole business of attaraction in realtion to a discussion I was having with a friend earlier on today.

But I also work from a thesis that contends that personality is unique, and while a disorder can alter and influence personality to an extent, it would seem that even on the autistic spectrum (in my opinion at least), there is still a full range of personalities at play.

So then to the question at hand. I haven't had much to do with the autistic community at large. A lot of people remain undiagnosed or are able to fit in to the NT world a little better. I have one female friend who I am pretty certain is at least mildly AS, and while she is pretty cool and is into maths and physics and is quite attractive, I just know she is not my type exactly. I would like to say I have met other girls I could say were possibly on the spectrum, but I think it takes time to get to know with some people.

But tying this back in to the whole thing of personality and attraction. I think while I would like to meet someone onthe spectrum because it immediately means that things like the problems of communication and social skills are understood, it also becomes a case of me being scared off by the lack of verbal communication. My most successful relationship to date (although my most emotionally fraught for me) was with someone who was very NT, loud, bubbly, gregarious (but probably mildly bi-polar).

So is it a case of even though we are all on the spectrum, we all are different personality types, and therefore may not necessarily attract people on the spectrum, but people who more suit out personality type?


john

I've only known two who were in my social transitions class during high school. They both were hideously ugly and awkward but that's only two people. So really, I can't judge all autistic girls and I won't.

No, but I’m not attracted to girls anyway.

I have met a lot of aspie guys though, and they usually scare me. They’re so intense and focused and a lot of them are loud. I tend to avoid them whenever possible. But I avoid everyone else with similar characteristics (except my brother, but I can't really get rid of him, can I?), so it’s nothing with aspie guys in particular I guess.

I do have one guy friend with AS, but I can’t stand to be around him for long periods of time. I like him better than most of the guys I meet at AS support groups though. But he’s a friend from high school, and I had to work with him last year so maybe I just developed a tolerance for him.