Emotional Retardation

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That's one thing that I can't imagine happening. Almost anyone will admit that a large part of what they're stuck fighting within themselves is the unchangeable - not of the variety that they should let go of but that which is fouling up their lives and landing them on the human wreckage pile. The same thing that sadly drives pettiness is both necessity regarding accountability and of course necessity regarding natural law. Many people can be great and wonderful at the core but will never, by the intricacies of parenthood or being a spouse (required responsibility of adulthood) - as compared to their neural wiring and what it allows - will never be in their right to even be in relationships. What makes the demands so brutal are accountability not only for ourselves but for those around us and the appropriate development for those we're raising (will they be viable?). We're always play with fire and none of us have the option not to unless we just opt out and sit on the sidelines of life; and if society feels you aren't up to code, you sit on the sideline by public mandate.

I'm just saying that the games rigged from top to bottom to be extremely unfair by design. For us to stop being what we are and stop having a great many people who for no good reason at all end up having very lackluster even terrible lives sometimes, the only way you could hope to change that is change our basis from genetic to some kind of robotic; we'd have an easier time I think becoming dogs or cows than riding ourselves of this.

I didn't say we need to change the world. Just change yourself by not accepting those standards and roles which are not natural.
I don't think society places realistic expectations on anyone and having an aspie who can't conform to these expectations no matter how hard they try is a losing battle. What I meant is that if you want to win, don't play the game and pretend to be something you're not. It may seem like you have to conform to land a mate but then eventually it will catch up to you. One can't put on an act forever.

Ok, for the record I never said it posed a relationship problem, he said: "I'd say female, becaues as long as you aren't hideous, guys will try to pick you up anyway.
Saves all the work.
" Of course I know girls dont like be quote in quote "picked up" as that generally refers to a really shallow person do so. Fun? Maybe. Fun in the long run? Hell no unless both people somehow manage to keep from getting bored of the same shallow s**t for years.


Sarcasm? Or no. If no thats a bit harsh and unwarranted. I really dont think Im an idiot and I really dont think you are either, but you keep making remarks that dont really explain why, what or how. No offense.

I'm sorry but I had to correct this. I don't really think girls necessarily find being picked up fun. To me it feels like an unwelcome, unwarranted invasion that I have no control over, and forces me to go against my own nature and morals by hurting someone else's feelings just to escape it. Not my idea of "fun".

That's another thing that seems to change the way people think. I never had a full sense of both sides until I found myself in that position a handful of times - after that its also a lot harder to feel sorry for onesself.

so what is your concept genius? you seem to be the only person who knows what you're talking about. it seemed like you replied to my post yet what you wrote had nothing to do with what I wrote... you didn't get the meaning at all, instead you passed judgement on me (and on what basis? my post did not have a self-reference, I was generalising, know what that means?) and threw in a quote that didn't even mean anything in the context.

so what is it that we are all so insecure about? care to explain, or are you going to pass random judgements and go ahead with your agenda, no matter what other posters say here? try reading the post with some understanding before you reply. and quit acting like you know everything on the subject when clearly you only have theoretical knowledge because of your age.

[ Female aspies who are immature seem to have traits which males are attracted to such as immature interests, simplicity, child like buoyancy, and such.


Yes, but "which males"? Aspie girls have to be careful of men with pedophilic tendencies! They won't find out about these tendencies until it's too late...like when their daughter tells them that "Daddy is bothering me where he's not supposed to." or if their husband gets arrested for messing around with a minor. Pedophiles indeed do marry for shelter so they can do what really turns them on without suspicion but they will ALWAYS get caught eventually.
Face it. They like kids, what better spouse will do? A childlike one until the novelty wears off and they go out cheatin' with a real, little kid. This is a HORRIBLE, HORRIBLE thing to happen to anyone. A situation of incest is SOOO easy for these creeps but bewildering and VERY distructive to a child and the unknowing parent. Sometimes the unknowing parent will not even believe the child which is a TERRIBLE shame leading to "trapped" feelings on the victim's part. Some run away to things that are far worse. Some are even brutally murdered all because the parent wouldn't believe them to preserve their own fantasy of a good marriage that they probably longed for all their life. WHAT A SHAME! Preserve your fantasy with denial but destroy your own child. WHAT A PITY!!

Of course I dont know everything....like I said very clearly Im 15. But what I dont get is you dont explain your self, I honestly understand you side but I like details. I havent judged you I just meant that people who make quick remarks like that with no good supporting factors tend to be insecure about it. While your post didnt have a self reference is said allot about what you were thinking. Im not trying to insult people in here but I really just like to "get inside" peoples head so to speak.

all I was saying was: "picking up" a woman or being picked up by a man does not equal holding a succesful relationship. you seem to be saying that if you can get picked up- as a woman -then you are fixed, and your partner will just ignore all aspects of your personality and, I don't know... look at you? was that what you were trying to say?

Polar opposite in fact. Of course not! Like I said thats very shallow and a shallow relationship wont ever last. Ignore all aspects of a personality? Oh God is that what you thought I meant and thought I thought was fine and dandy? If so you misunderstood my meaning, thats in fact the type of thing I avoid at all costs....last thing I need is more stress.

then I don't understand why you even replied to my first post if you agree with the above and that's exactly what I said and meant

Because you pounced on another member when he was stating the obvious. He said it in a non-biased, non opinionated way.

^^I did no such thing.

I really am done with the whole fighting thing....plus I really feel like a jerk with each "submit" I hit even if Im trying to prove a point here....

maybe that's because there isn't anything to prove and you just simply are a jerk?

Well I guess Im not sugar coating enough...Im seriously not trying to be a jerk though I just dont like people jumping on others and seeing as this is a pointless argument now I dont see why we should fight over it for the next 3 pages.