CJBinks wrote:
sunshower wrote:
So anyway, to be considered intelligent and into books these days a woman has to have bad eyesight? That doesn't make much sense to me.
Then again, stereotypes never do.
But I feel comforted by that fact that no guy with any reasonable level of intelligence would be superficial enough to believe that someones appearance could be an indication of their intelligence, personality, or passions (a.k.a. books).
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Well, I do say, I believe I came across as rather cutting for a minute there. Oops. I'd apologize, except for the fact that I'm not sorry.
You have to realize there is a certain amount of rationalizing going on here. Given the amount of stereotyping, I'd say in most of these cases they find it attractive, not really sure why, and spit out the first thing to come to mind.
You want to talk about stereotyping? Fine....let's talk about stereotyping.
Like "nice guys" being portrayed as "weak", "sissies", "effiminate", "unconfident", yada freaking yada.... In many cases we are not even given the
chance to prove that many of us are not these things. But that is a long rant to be taken to another thread, so I will bite my tongue....for now.
*Takes a second to breathe*
I apologize for the nasty tone of the first part.
And yes, I do have a tendency to be attracted to women with glasses. This is because
my own experiences with women who wear glasses have overall been much more positive, and they have displayed many of the traits I look for in a potential mate (well-spoken conversation, acting like a lady and not a "hoe" in public, etc.)
more consistently.
I do realize some of you have likely had different experiences and so that view will likely be different from mine. Given that relationships tend to be few and far between I try to make my "first contacts" count. With varying degrees of success, but I still try to make them count. For me, it makes a better "first impression". You know, first impressions, that something it seems almost everyone in the female gender seems to harp on us men about.
You want to call this rationalization? So be it. I call it making a rational conclusion based on personal experience over the course of my life.
Some of the women asked why those of us on this thread liked girls with glasses, and we answered why. Now you get an idea of what some of us think when we ask them why they date jerks. I was hoping some of them would actually take it as a compliment, because we can all use an emotional "hand up" every now and again. Also, us glasses-wearers could use some love, too, every now and again.
Instead of complimenting, we are stereotyping and rationalizing.
Thanks. Excuse me while I pull the stinger out.
Whoa dude.
Chill.
What part of 'certain amount' or even 'most' didn't you understand? You have a reasoned, well thought out position. Most of the ones here don't. So, why do you assume I was talking about you?