Quotes fom NTs that you hate?

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A comment which is annoying, which many NTs and Aspies often declare, is "I don't like [arbitrary large group of people]"

... when really they seem to (at least often) mean "I don't find [arbitrary large group of people] attractive sexually"

As in "I don't like women with red hair."
"I don't like men who are shorter than me."
"I don't like black women"
"I don't like overweight men"
etc.

It seems like a really crappy way of expressing who they are attracted to (or not) sexually.

Just imagine if asexual/aromantics went around unexplainedly stating "I don't like people"

Or if people who believe that they would never be attracted to people with Aspergers all stated "I don't like people who have Aspergers" , instead of saying "I'm not sexually attracted to people who have Aspergers".

... it's like that.

I think that it's very superficial anyway, for people to bluntly declare that they "don't like" people who have a certain arbitrary physical feature (such as the colour of their hair , or height) ... because I would imagine that likeability would have more to do with personality than physical features, and as such it seems ridiculous for people to declare that they "don't like" people who they've never even met before.

I guess that for me, it has overtones of primary school taunts and prejudices ... as in "I don't like Joan because she has uncool clothes" , "I don't like Kyah because she's black", "I don't like John because he's fat", or "I don't like Sarah because she has red hair".

Most of them are trash designed to keep people in line.

#1 You need to take risks if you want to get somewhere in life (or something like that)

Yes, I have only $6000 in the bank. Let me take a little risk and invest it in the stock market, preferably one of those penny stocks that will be worth even less in the future.

#2 This one is in Spanish: La Suerte del feo, el bonito la desea.

Translation: An ugly person's luck is something a beautiful person wishes he had, or something like that. It is some BS ugly people say when people remind them that they are ugly. People fool themsleves into thinking they can get beautiful women despite their physical limitations. You'd need some serious $$$$$$ if you are ugly, and you want to meet someone.

#3 Don't be so negative <------my favorite

Translation: easy to say when you have friends who can help you find a better job, or give you a place to stay in you end up without a home.

#4 Desahuevate <---Panamanian lingo

Translation: don't be so dumb. It is usually said to anyone suffering from anxiety, depression, lacking social skills, all of the above. Sometimes it is said to someone who doesn't like mainstream music, or someone who doesn't dance. It is almost a meaningless word, but people around here usually say it all the time. I grew up listening to that crappy word.

One quote I really can't stand is Eleanor Roosevelt's famous, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Well, heck yeah they can - short of covering your ears every time you're around people who are mean to you, they're going to say/do something that'll hurt your feelings somehow or other; and you can't help the way you feel....feelings aren't WRONG. People shouldn't be made to feel bad for being sensitive or having buttons people like to push.

Btw, it's the QUOTE I dislike, not Eleanor Roosevelt herself....I'm sure she was a lovely person in real life.

You can do anything if you put your mind to it.

1) "You'll grow out of it."

2) "You can overcome it."

3) "What's up?"

....................................................................... What do you mean 'what's up?' What??...................... What??? ....................... Do you mean 'how are you?' or 'what are you currently doing?' WHAT?! *head explodes*

What I dislike:

1. I don't think you can afford that
2. Are you sure that won't be too hard for you?
3. I know you don't stay by yourself do you?
4. (When I tell them I am not disabled) Then what are you?
5. Whenever they throw the word 'huh' at the end of a sentence and talk in this phony voice
6. Where are your parents?
7. Do you have a social worker?
8. Are you having a pity party?

As an earlier poster said: "that's just your opinion"

The NTs who say this ignore (or ignorant of the fact) that their opinion is just theirs, too. It's a really passive aggressive thing to say and is intended to put down, trivialise and discount any opinion which disagrees or differs from theirs. It's code for: "Of course I am right and your opinion differs and therefore doesn't count", although they haven't got the guts or integrity to say that openly. Good way to spot NT narcissists though!

Also:

"what do you do for a job?" I always find this offensive and instrusive coming from total strangers.

Some super annoying ones come from NTs who are new agers:

"You chose your ..parents/illness/abuse" (Code for "it's all your own fault and it's always your own fault")

And the perennial "Just be yourself".

And the judgmental discounters who not only insult you with these but do it in front of others:


"You're a strange person/ you're weird/you're not normal".

"You think too much" (Er, what is the correct amount of thinking?? This one particularly comes from people who think too little).

The uninvited advice givers:

"You just need to ..."

"You should.." (code for be more like them)

"You just need to get out more"

and the particularly annoying instruction to "Lighten up".

Finally the big NT social lies: "We must keep in touch" "I'll call you"

It's probably already on here but this is perhaps the worst:

- You just have to stop looking and then you'll get a girlfriend

--> How, magic? You just close your eyes, wait a few seconds, and poof, there's a girlfriend sitting opposite you?

My least favorites, mostly because of the insincerity inherent in each:

"I'll call you later." No you won't! You're just trying to get rid of me. (So many people say that and then never do.)

"Anything you need, let me know." Why? Will you "call me later?"

"You need to be comfortable in your own skin/Be yourself" If I decided to "be myself," I would bring a doll with me everywhere despite being in my thirties, dance through Prospect Park, and spend hours talking about Law & Order. And then no one would want to have anything to do with me because I'm too weird.