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18 Feb 2011, 11:32 pm

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Being weird is a by product of human social evolution. Think back to the days of cavemen, Sumeria, Egypt and other places of anqituity...if you did not fit in and do the same things as everyone else you were left out and banished or outright killed. The social need to be similar has value because it allows stuff to get done because everyone is moving in the same direction on the same train of practical thought. If everyone back in the cavemen days were aspie I do not think the human race would have survived. This is why things and people that are different are in ways 'outcasted' in todays society. Others do not want to associate with weird people because like the poster before me said it lowers their own social status by association.


You're absolutely right. It's ugly as ugly can be, but it's true.



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19 Feb 2011, 10:12 pm

I LIKE being weird, I don't mind being called it.Conversely,I've been called "cool" which really startled me! whoa!



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20 Feb 2011, 4:55 am

Mackica wrote:
I LIKE being weird, I don't mind being called it.Conversely,I've been called "cool" which really startled me! whoa!


Iv been told nice things about me too Mackica i think it might be alright after all :)



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20 Feb 2011, 6:03 am

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It's an indication of low social status. If others perceive you as 'weird', they will not associate with you for fear of diminishing their own social status.


That's funny considering the people who become successful in life are often those who are deemed "weird."



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20 Feb 2011, 6:26 am

Asp-Z wrote:
Telekon wrote:
It's an indication of low social status. If others perceive you as 'weird', they will not associate with you for fear of diminishing their own social status.


That's funny considering the people who become successful in life are often those who are deemed "weird."


the people that are thought of as weird can be shepherds :)



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20 Feb 2011, 9:18 am

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Why is being "weird" so bad?


because it is not correctly "wired".

("wired" is an anagram of "weird")



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20 Feb 2011, 11:40 am

Asp-Z wrote:
Telekon wrote:
It's an indication of low social status. If others perceive you as 'weird', they will not associate with you for fear of diminishing their own social status.


That's funny considering the people who become successful in life are often those who are deemed "weird."


Successful at what? I don't think professional athletes (to take one successful class of people) are often a weird bunch. Certainly some of them are, but most of them seem socially well-adjusted.

Success can be achieved despite one's social status. Look at Mark Zuckerberg.



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20 Feb 2011, 11:46 am

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being weird is NOT bad. The problem is some narrow-minded people think that anyone's behavior that does not conform to their norms is somehow flawed.
Being a non-conformist is an advantage because you avoid herd mentality. Beware the sheeple.


you mean lemmings, since people will follow each other one after the other off of cliffs.


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25 Feb 2011, 6:08 am

How can sheeps truly understand the sheperds that guide them. But alas, sheeps are many thus making the sheperd rather lonely and odd in a world full of sheeps. Sry if my english is not gd. It is not my 1st language.



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25 Feb 2011, 8:53 am

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Why is being "weird" so bad?


"weirdness" is seen through an aberration in the eye of the beholder.

"weird" means "not understood and worrisome" (to me). it bothers me not if others do not understand me.

they can just vacate my intention trajectory and remove any possibility of a collision.



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27 Feb 2011, 3:30 pm

Kite89 wrote:
How can sheeps truly understand the sheperds that guide them. But alas, sheeps are many thus making the sheperd rather lonely and odd in a world full of sheeps. Sry if my english is not gd. It is not my 1st language.


if the shepherd were understood it would take away all there mystery and magic Kite89 :) i think it helps to learn conversation with people and odd makes the shepherd visible :) i do think everything can be learnt



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02 Mar 2011, 3:48 pm

It's not! People shouldn't judge others just because they don't conform to society. If everyone were the same, nothing would ever get done. no one would have ever had ideas for inventions. and sometimes when you're weird you can appreciate things that most people would take for granted. I love when I meet people who are "weird like me" because then I can actually have a meaningful conversation with them instead of feeling achingly bored.
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03 Mar 2011, 3:12 am

some people think that if a person seems weird that they could possibly be a pedophile or some other unacceptable pervert.



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03 Mar 2011, 10:42 pm

Jessi_in_wonderland wrote:
It's not! People shouldn't judge others just because they don't conform to society.
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Especially when society has been grossly wrong before.



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30 Mar 2011, 8:37 pm

Humans have always been pack animals. If you examine a wolf pack's infrastructure, you will notice most of the wolves follow one "alpha". Similarly, humans are probably subconsciously programmed to "follow the crowd" and conform. In my opinion, NTs are the followers, while Aspies are the alphas. It would be possible to test this theory, assuming that some scientific community was willing to fund an entirely new country with administration run entirely by Aspies and populated entirely by NTs. It actually bears some resemblance to Aldous Huxley's book Brave New World. In this book, the entire social hierarchy is split into five castes; Alphas are the intellectually superior beings, Betas are more along the lines of average people, Gammas are slightly below-average, Deltas are near the bottom, and Epsilons are extremely dumbed down.


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31 Mar 2011, 9:04 pm

Not in my book.