KevinLA wrote:
NTs view a friend as someone on the surface to socialize with. We view a friend on a deeper level as someone we can rely on and talk about our feelings.
No...not necessarily. There are plenty of NTs who want friendship on a deeper level. The problem occurs when other people on the spectrum keep meeting NTs who are superficial, then conclude they are ALL like that.
Intimacy, for most people, often comes with time as you get to know them, too. My closest NT friends did not start as super close, but as we learned about each other, we now feel that we can fully rely on each other and talk about deeper thoughts and feelings.
Maybe you just need to meet more NTs that want the same things you do. They are harder to find...but they are out there. Trust me.
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Given a “tentative” diagnosis as a child as I needed services at school for what was later correctly discovered to be a major anxiety disorder.
This misdiagnosis caused me significant stress, which lessened upon finding out the truth about myself from my current and past long-term psychiatrists - that I am a highly sensitive person but do not have an autism spectrum disorder
My diagnoses - anxiety disorder, depression and traits of obsessive-compulsive disorder (all in remission).
I’m no longer involved with the ASD world.
03 Nov 2012, 6:02 pm
