Has anyone ever felt like people simply aren't listening?

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Whenever you needed to talk to someone about something, it's like they're really pretending to listen to you but in reality they haven't a clue what you're saying nor do they care? And then sometimes YOU get in trouble for the misinterpretation!

no one ever listens to me ever

happens especially when i am trying to bring up something important that i really need to talk to about. i am shy sometimes, and it's difficult for me to start conversations that need to be talked about but the other person hasn't got a clue that it's something on my chest. never can make people understand. i end up feeling like a fool.

I'm sorry, I wasn't paying attention. What did you say?

Yep,just experienced it trying to talk to several different family mambers about AS.It is like they have a "skill" in not "hearing" any thing they doent understand or care about....magic.

Too late. Man, your girl is HOT!! !

I try to choose my words quite carefully, but people always seem to interpret them in the most negative possible way. For example, I will ask a question (without having any particular opinion) and they'll assume it was rheotorical and therefore I have a fixed view indeed. Why?

Though the answer to a question may not be obvious to you and me, most NT's will assume that the answer is known and they will then only ask said question as a means to suggest some point of view. <br><br>What I have found useful is to preface such questions to which I need answers with an extended "I ask this question with the sole purpose of seeking information and not to establish any bias or convey any other information..." etc. etc. etc. Usually, the person to whom I am speaking will get the point and not read anything more from the question than a basic request for information. <br>*shrug* ... sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. *shrug*

My parents always ignore me when I try to say something

That happens to me, all the time. It just makes me want to crawl into a retired Routemaster and die.

Has anyone ever felt like people simply aren't listening?

Not that so much as they simply aren't hearing.

This seems to happen to me all the time. I sit there and listen to everyone else talk about their lives and problems, but the monment I say something, I feel like they are not listening. I hate this, because I don't know if it is really true or not. However, it is nice to know that i'm not the only one that feels this way.

All the friggin' time. And people interrupt me so often.

All the time.. I figure people don't care to listen to other people so.. I listen, I'm happy to listen to people's problems but people don't talk to me much either

This is my first post ever, hope it's ok.....
I have recently come to the conclusion, after testing this theory out, that because other people don't feel or think in the same way as we do, they simply cannot understand what we are talking about, especially if it is about how we feel or the way we percieve the world, and they tune themselves out of the conversation, because it is hard to concentrate on something you don't understand. Very few people feel comfortable talking about Aspergers, especially my family, they still find it hard to accept, maybe because I was diagnosed as an adult they feel guilty that they didn't spot it when I was a child.
Sometimes I do get it wrong though, the person has been listening and I have misread them.

Yup, I feel like this a lot.