TreeShadow wrote:
Have you ever had a friendship/relationship with someone who is also an Aspie?
I've never met another aspie IRL as far as I know.
I've had aspie online friends, and one LDR with one. I don't feel that being aspies make us understand each other better. The relationship in particular was very demanding and rocky. He had no understanding at all for my inability to come up with stuff to say a lot of the time. I told him how that is for me and he wouldn't listen, but the moment he saw it for himself he took it to mean that I didn't like him and wasn't ready for a relationship and he accused me of being able to if I wanted to, which isn't true at all; when I have nothing to say I really can't come up with anything, it's one of my main problems in interactions.
On the other hand I once had an NT online friend who also didn't know what to say at times and he was refreshingly easy to chat with, because he understood and was very laid back.
It's definitely more down to individual than neurology.
TreeShadow wrote:
We just think too differently, and have different understandings of what friendship is.
How would you describe the different understandings of what friendship is?
I find it hard to define at all, since every relation you have with someone is unique, but I'd say that emotional closeness (caring about each other), respect, being able to relate and connect, being comfortable with each other, having fun and being serious with each other, and trust, will always be part of friendship.