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27 Jul 2005, 4:49 pm

I think Aaron might be implying that touching the back is like touching the privates; a very uncomfortable experience...


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28 Jul 2005, 4:51 am

Hmmm, interesting. Now I see why my family isn't exactly a cuddly one. I think I can count the times my mother, grandmother and especially grandfather have hugged me. They all have some aspie traits including my aunt who never liked being touched at all and would get mean if you tried. I'm most at ease with sharing contact toward boyfriends or my biological father but with others, it depends on the quality of the relationship.


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28 Jul 2005, 7:31 am

I hate being touched in any way unless it's by a girlfriend. Alright, I don't mind shaking hands, or if I'm playing a contact sport (which is next to never because I suck at sport), but unnecessary touching pisses me off.


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29 Jul 2005, 6:18 pm

I hate to be touched. Its like skin crawling. Even when I was younger I couldn't stand to be picked up. Now I can't even stand having some one put their arm around me unexpectedly.


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29 Jul 2005, 9:02 pm

Hmmmm...when I was younger I couldn't stand touch.It was painful and uncomfortable to me.But I have learned to tolerate it.But unexpected touching,such as if someone just walks up to me and all of a sudden grabs me,startles me and it may cause me to lash out at them.

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29 Jul 2005, 9:15 pm

I usually give one-armed hugs to non-family members. I don't know any hug etiquette, but I don't like false enthusiasm and won't use it when hugging.


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29 Jul 2005, 10:24 pm

Eh...hugging is okay...

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29 Jul 2005, 10:27 pm

I hit people who touch me without warning.



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30 Jul 2005, 12:43 pm

I hate shaking hands for the most part all "adults" want to do that with 19 year old me and I cant stand touching them so if neither of my parents are there and its not a situation where I have to I sometimes just look at it and get them to put it down.

But unless its skin to skin contact I generally dont care I just hate feeling them.


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30 Jul 2005, 11:58 pm

I'm very anxious when it comes to physical contact with people.

But I REALLY want to get over this - it's really constricting my personal life.

Anyone got any ideas or suggestions?



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31 Jul 2005, 3:25 pm

if I tried to get someone to shake my hand and they didn't shake it, I would feel hurt.



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31 Jul 2005, 3:43 pm

Is this touching issue this common?

I used to be like that, For many years I couldnt stand being touced exept by my significant other.

In the last few years with good therapy I've found I like giving hugs and recieving them. But for a lot of my life the idea filled me with revulsion.



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06 Aug 2005, 8:58 am

Scoots5012 wrote:
Mom said that even as an infant, if she or someone else tried to pick me up, I would scream and resist. People other than my parents would be suprised by this, they had never seen this before in a baby. No one though in 1979 knew about tactile defensiveness.


I am so happy to have found somewhere that someone else says tactile defensiveness. I used this term at work the other day and they went What?

Anyway I hate to be touched by anyone I don't know very well and that I don't trust. I am however, a hug junkie for my husband's hugs. The one thing that will often calm me down is his hug. It is like a drug for me. Big issue is that he is extremely well trained to not show emotions and hugging is very uncomfortable for him. We have however, learned to compromise.


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06 Aug 2005, 11:29 am

Here's something that helped me become more comfortable with touching.

I've been taking dance classes (partner dancing) for a little less than two years by now. Since you can't dance with someone without touching them, it helped me become really accustomed to "social touching". I still get a little uncomfortable when someone I'm not too familiar with (like a co-worker) touches me, I'm much more comfortable with it now. Maybe it'll work for some of you too.



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09 Aug 2005, 5:58 pm

I like a nice hug or a pat on the back, but I HATE it when people try to guide my hands. It doesn't happen very often, but when it does, watch out!



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10 Aug 2005, 6:51 am

I hate being touched, but only by my mother, strange people that I don't like the aura of, and people I don't like. My mother would keep telling people that I dodn't like anyone to touch me. At all. Ever. Of course when I'd correct her, she'd never listen. :x She would even go so far as to say "What will you do if you ever get a boyfriend?" Well, I have one, and I get bothered if he doesn't touch me.