Stormyweathers wrote:
Being right is never enough. You also have to be persuasive, powerful, or sometimes both.
Most people don't realize what lies underneath their social choices. If you are Christian or take wisdom regardless of source, the operative phrase here is "They know not what they do ..." and they won't thank you for pointing it out.
If you try to prove it to them, there is a good chance you are right, and a better chance you will provoke cognitive dissonance whether you are right or not.
People don't like it when you point out their warts, and then they don't want to be around you. The more undeniably right you are, the more likely that is to happen.
My advice is take people for what they are or don't. They will tend to do the same to you.
Lately I am doing my best to accept people the way they are and not to overreact if they try to hurt me in any way, at least not to show it, at least not right away. It is really a challenge for me to try to give them a place in my life, no matter how big or small, how more or less important. I can not only tolerate psychopaths, they drain energy which I don't have much. But luckily there are not many of them.
And thank you, you gave me very good advice and you are right about everything you said here. Definitely, you can't change the people, most likely you can't change neither the way they treat you, but you can change how you react to it. Or you can just step away or leave in case relationships become unbearable.
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Someone wrote in their signature English is not their first language. Same here.