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21 Apr 2008, 11:18 pm

As I learn about my son's Asperger's I think I am learning about my own as well. I owe my DH a HUGE apology. I refer to my older son's opinions as validation that DH is mono-expression and that DS and I both think he is angry all the time. If I am using my own opinion as well as DS's as social-cue compasses .... maybe we are the ones who are incorrect and not DH.

After all these years . . .

Maybe we can now meet in the middle.

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22 Apr 2008, 2:27 am

Um. . . DH? DS?


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22 Apr 2008, 2:37 am

Jainaday wrote:
Um. . . DH? DS?


i second that - i just clued out


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22 Apr 2008, 8:46 am

May life become awesome for you and Dear Husband and Dear Son as you grow in knowledge and understanding.



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22 Apr 2008, 12:43 pm

lol if that was me i wud be too stubborn to say i am wrong



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22 Apr 2008, 1:12 pm

Jainaday wrote:
Um. . . DH? DS?

DH = dear husband
DS = dear son

I don'y know if I'm right or not, but Subaru does refer to DS and DH as different people, so it would follow that one's the son and one's the husband.


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22 Apr 2008, 3:51 pm

I have a huge problem with this as well. I tend to think that my husband's relaxed, regular expression is an angry, irritated one. This sounds ridiculous, but we have gotten into some big arguments over this! I'll keep asking him what's wrong, and he says nothing, but from what I see on his face, he looks mad. One time during a pretty big argument I told him that it's his facial expression that set the whole argument off, and he exclaims " you're basing this whole argument on my facial expression? You know that you're really bad at reading facial expressions!" Then we both started laughing, and I apologized, because I know he's right!