ouinon wrote:
When I was 26 I had had sex with 20 people, ( and I've had sex with another 14 or 15 people since ).
From age 18 to 29 I got drunk a lot, because it helped me socially, and I spent a lot of energy on a socially successful performance, ( without even realising that I did ), had studied painstakingly how to dress, the gestures and smiles etc that worked, was attractive, and used to go to bed with almost anyone who had the nerve to ask me, because I actually had almost no sex drive at all, and didn't know what sexual attraction, ( as opposed to attraction to someone's conversation/ideas etc ), felt like.
A supposed friend warned me at uni that if I wasn't careful I'd make a name for myself, but I realised long afterwards that she was jealous. I wasn't showing off, or "whoring", ( which is doing it for money ), but just doing what I thought I was supposed to do. And yes, it may have had something to do with the fact I went to bed with guys as soon as they wanted to, and relationships rarely lasted more than a few weeks, or even days, after that.
I have since discovered what sexual excitement and attraction feels like, and it has actually made me less inclined to go to bed with people. The last 11 years I've been to bed with only one person, and that was only for a year or so.
Am curious; do you find that you tend to ( first ) go to bed with people when you have been drinking or when completely sober?
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Just out of curiosity, I really have a hard time understanding this perspective people have of going through with having sex with 40 people. Maybe you can explain that to me. I am a male and cannot understand this perspective at all. If I had even had numerous opportunities to have sex, the vast majority I would have rejected as a matter of moral turpitude. There are only 5 or so women I would have ever seriously considered having sex with in my entire life. I am more wrapped up in the day-to-day events in life than having sex in relationships. I would be happy just reading the morning paper or having a beer. I was huge pothead in school and did everything I got my hands on. Women are useless when sex is being offered. I'd rather have a cool woman friend who enjoys going to the bar and drinking until we're stumbling around than anyone to have sex with. I think Dave Chapelle was talking about black and white potheads and how the blacks get uppity and do whatever they do and the whites just sit back and talk about times they smoked weed before. I'd rather look back on life and instead of saying "yeah i [] this one chick" I'd rather be like, "Remember that time we got so drunk and then got arrested? Yeah I just passed out in my cell and took a nap."
What do you call this if anything?
EDIT: Basically I'd like a woman who acts like a man and is content with sitting around drinking and blowing stuff up.